Was asked (again) " You are good looking, have it together, why are you single and never married"?

[tipitop]

Originally Posted by kat949

A little bitter aren't we? Why so bothered? Chill..!

Free market and not decent people that talk whit you will say you true. This forum is similar to bodybuilding one where ugly people with big muscle mass wonder why they are alone.

[Tinawina]

Originally Posted by filihok

So, wait.
He was flirting with you, right?
And this was before he know you were never married with no kids, right?
And, then, upon finding out that you had never been married and did not have kids, he was scared of you?

Maybe.

However, I am inclined to believe that it's more likely that a man would be attracted to a never married woman with no kids than the opposite.

I still think his intent was to compliment you.

No. He thought the fact that I did not have children was a red flag. If I was that age and not a baby mama or a wife then there must be something wrong with me. He could not comprehend it, he was taken aback. Trust me, I was there.

He acted like he did not know any black women in their 20s without children.

But honestly once I hit my late 20s I got a lot more "when are you going to get married?" type questions in general. After this incident I started dating a different guy, and I was talking to my roommate, and she asked me how it was going. I told her that I was thinking of breaking up with him and she told me "You better marry him, he's into you and you won't find anyone to marry you next year" (I was 29). She was dead serious. She was telling me he was my last chance because I was too old for anyone to want me. 30 was some kind of death sentence to her.

I ended up getting married to someone else at 32. I guess I blew her mind. SMH.

[himain]

I get asked this alot and I just answer with "I'd rather be alone than be unhappy"

[M3 Mitch]

Originally Posted by lionking

Been asked this a couple times, recently again. I have lots of personal thoughts on this but won't say them yet, fact is I have thoughts but no real answers other than I have high expectations that are never met enough for me to want to marry or commit and a couple times that I was willing to commit the feelings were not mutual.

I must not be that good looking or together afterall....

A good put-down answer is "Because I am not stupid!".

In the current political and legal climate, not much upside for a man with good financials to marry.

[Toroid]

As an about to be 34 year old male whose never been married, no children, and has heard this often I would like to add some context to this question as I've been asked it.

The people who have asked me this are almost exclusively 1) older, married, mothers, 2) by women who want to set me up someone they know; worse yet by mothers who want me to consider their daughters, or 3) younger women who want to question my intentions before they sleep with me.

The more entertaining side of this question is the number of married male friends my age who are always telling me how jealous they are of my single life.