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After ending a long relationship, is it normal to become slightly promiscuous and sleep around?
It's not normal for me, or most emotionally healthy people, in my opinion. But sure, there are plenty of people that do this.
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Originally Posted by TheEarthBeneathMe
I (27m) never once cheated during the 10 years with my exwife, and she was my first GF. However, since then (actually the past 2-3 months) I've been with 6 women I met from dating sites, and have always used protection..
Is that normal and understandable?
Would you think less of a partner you got into a serious relationship with, knowing that's their history?
I wouldn't get into a relationship with someone that I knew had been that promiscuous, so I guess I would answer yes, I would think less of them, at least as far as relationship material.
But I would not expect anyone to tell me such a history - I don't think that is normal to expect or volunteer such information. So I would only expect to find out such a thing from others, and I would see that as a red flag.
dude you are a 27 year old male. no one is going to judge you as promiscuous for that. it is kinda weird that you met all of them on dating sites, though. personally i would definitely think less of you for that. you might want to find some hobbies or something. step away from the internets
i dont know about normal but common yes. for the guy deprived of sex for years thru forced celebacy aka the institution of marriage, yes there will be some sex. for the woman it is usually referred to by divorcees as "the dirty dozen" rotten boyfriends the opposite of the man they married. this seems to be revenge driven. if you have a better explanation please post. these are widespread and insane events that we play out in 67% of marriage attempts, 79% on 2nd round. one of the great misdeeds of the church and family is to tell people marriage is a place where human sexuality is expressed.
i have only been celebate once, when i was married. if you want to live a life without sex, dont join the priesthood or convent, get married.
Is it normal to sleep around after ending a long relationship? Would you think less of a partner who did?
Normal is subjective.. It's for they themselves to judge and for others they choose to tell if they're feeling judgemental. Personally? I couldn't give a toss.. Everyone has a past.
I think it might be understandable but I don't know if I'd call it normal. Everyone reacts differently, just be safe and smart about it.
I had a GF who did this after her husband cheated on and left her, and it was more than obvious she was doing it for the ego validation. When my husband did the same to me, I kept to myself, went through a spell of almost being fearful to leave the house, very distrustful of the outside world, having been betrayed by the person closest to me. The last thing I was worried about was sex.
I wouldn't think less of someone, although I don't inquire about past sexual history either. But I would ask yourself if this is what you really want, if you are trying to avoid dealing with any personal issues by doing this. Do you want a relationship or a series of ONS. Only you can answer that.
I think it's pretty normal to want to sow your wild oats so to speak after getting out of a really long relationship. As long as you are safe and honest with these women about your intentions, then I don't see why your behavior now should negatively affect you later when you do want to have another relationship. I really don't care about a guy's past as long as he was safe and wasn't one of those guys who lied to get women to sleep with him.
Is it normal to sleep around after ending a long relationship? Would you think less of a partner who did?
Normal is subjective.. It's for they themselves to judge and for others they choose to tell if they're feeling judgemental. Personally? I couldn't give a toss.. Everyone has a past.
Rep, ^^^^. Passing Judgement really reflects more negatively on the person doing the judging than the person being Judged.
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