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I think all of is is pretty much down to low self esteem and needing to be loved and wanted by someone, anyone. Also I think some women in particular like to think they can reform and change a man and refuse to see the evil as a fixed fixture but chose to view it as something which the power of their love and commitment can change.
I also think like teenage girls and posters of hunks on the wall that marrying or being in a "relationship" with a jailbird is a safe way to engage with someone , there are no risks so to speak as there is no chance that person can truly hurt you ( or so they think). The prison becomes this safety blanket and safety net against emotional hurt and most of these women IMO already come from an abusive background and need to feel secure. Having a relationship 24/7 with a human being is hard work, it takes a lot of effort and emotional involvement.
A prisoner is quite likely to be on his best behaviour when you visit him and provide a little comfort and succour. A normal man will be in many ways harder to deal with.
I do believe these people are damaged and broken and will take "love" wherever they can take it. Also many prisoners will be highly charming and charismatic, good at playing a role and allowing those women to see their better sides . Many will be perfect masters of manipulation and find a way to beguile women who they know are fragilised and needy.
I feel sorry for the women ( it is mostly women as far as I know) because they need to be loved so much they are willing to let all common sense and reason out of the window.
A small minority I suspect will also actively like the idea of having a "dangerous man" as a partner albeit behind bars. It will add a certain frisson of excitement to their lives and make them feel powerful in some bizarre ways. Some women after all always love bad boys.
Being needed is a very potent human need. It makes us feel as though our lives have a purpose and feel validated as human beings.
But mostly, it's self esteem. No educated, well rounded, intelligent, common sense woman would ever think to herself, "gee, I think I'll marry an inmate" I mean seriously?
Seriously, take out the "common sense" and you actually have many women who are attracted to inmates.
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