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A Meth addict, alcoholic/drug addict, severely mentally ill person, sociopath, violent criminal. Someone who has intentionally damaged their body or mind.
Would this include a person who cuts? What about a person who purges over a toilet? Watched an episode of jersey shore?
You seem like a very considerate person ... but for what it's worth, the verbal harm stuff doesn't harm or bother me. I really don't care. I have a wonderful child, great family and friends, a solid career with a good income, I own my own home (didn't get it in a divorce, I bought it), and a really cool hobby (I am a technical scuba diver). So if someone doesn't like me or calls me names, I don't care. I am pretty happy with myself and my life is pretty good. Finding a good man would make it great though... have to admit that
This is exactly my point. How could anyone refer to someone like you as damaged goods? I have one colleague that did IVF to get pregnant (with her now twins) because she felt like she was running out of time. This is a 6 figure earning, pH D scientist, who is a lead investigator on projects that will likely play a role in many lives. I have bf who owns her own desk top publishing business, also earns well into the 6 figures, is about as chill as a person can be and is divorced with two kids (no child support or anything). She's currently dating a never married, single, childless engineer. Um, these women are not damaged in any way. Although, it's possible that some of these guys hail from backgrounds where women who are single moms are of a different SES and cultural type. They don't know, and will never know, single moms like you and my friend. That's ultimately a blessing.
I think people have misconstrued this. Sure, we've probably all felt jaded/cynical/withdrawn etc at times. When these negative emotions dominate your life and you are unable to move past them, that's when you earn the title of damaged goods.
So, you're sexual stalking of CD women (according to you and some women here) and starting threads about it, which is weird, would put you in the category of having negative emotions dominating your life, correct? Is this ultimately another thread about you, Phil?
Unless their husband passed away, if they have kids and are not married then yes. I wouldn't want to date them. I know I'll probably get hate mail from the angry feminist on here, but oh well.
people that have had sexual trauma have issues in establishing close relationships. i didnt say they could not do it, but it requires lots of work. they might be worth it.
the burning 64k question are they willing to work on their stuff? get help? if not think hard about what they are asking u to do, accept their unavailability.
Would this include a person who cuts? What about a person who purges over a toilet? Watched an episode of jersey shore?
I guess I think of someone who is intentionally, severely damaging their body due to mental issues, like cutting. But I don't like the term "damaged goods" applied to people and have never used it before this thread. It reminds me of some boxed product that was damaged in shipping. People are not boxed products.
So, you're sexual stalking of CD women (according to you and some women here) and starting threads about it, which is weird, would put you in the category of having negative emotions dominating your life, correct? Is this ultimately another thread about you, Phil?
You could definitely place me in the damaged goods category. My baggage could sink an aircraft carrier and I own it all.
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... but for what it's worth, the verbal harm stuff doesn't harm or bother me. I really don't care. I have a wonderful child, great family and friends, a solid career with a good income, I own my own home (didn't get it in a divorce, I bought it), and a really cool hobby (I am a technical scuba diver). So if someone doesn't like me or calls me names, I don't care. I am pretty happy with myself and my life is pretty good. Finding a good man would make it great though... have to admit that 
