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Hey guys i have conflicting emotions. To start off i am in my mid 20's and i am currently single. I met this married girl in her early 30's a couple of weeks ago and to make a long story short, we made out. We have kissed a couple of times since but we could brush it off because we were drunk. There has not been an incident where we kissed sober. We got to know each other and of course i find out she is not too happy with her marriage.
This may sound like a cliche story but she is not just an ordinary girl. She is from a foreign country and is just starting to learn the american culture. She acknowledged that her husband has cheated and they have a consensus that being with a significant other is not a threat to end there relationship.
So my question is what should i do exactly? She is easily the prettiest girl i have ever messed with and probably will ever mess around with. Should i swallow the guilty pill and proceed with becoming more sexual? Or should i do the politically correct this and just back away and cut contact. I like to flirt and i like to be seen with pretty girls. Not trying to sound like an alpha male of any sort, but that is just a natural trait of mine..
Any advice is appreciated and i will not feel bad about any ill-comments that is thrown my way...
It's not about being politically correct, this is about being morally and ethically right. Don't mess around with married women, it's wrong. If she wants you that badly she'll divorce her husband and then she's a free agent.
It's not about being politically correct, this is about being morally and ethically right. Don't mess around with married women, it's wrong. If she wants you that badly she'll divorce her husband and then she's a free agent.
Well it's not quite a emotional relationship where i want her to leave someone for me. I guess we can chalk it up as lust. I know it is morally and ethically wrong, but i am not quite sure how wrong it is if there is no extreme negative impact.
Question: If you were guaranteed a successful sexual relationship without being caught, would you attempt knowing a few years from now, it wont be on your conscious?
It's not about being politically correct, this is about being morally and ethically right. Don't mess around with married women, it's wrong. If she wants you that badly she'll divorce her husband and then she's a free agent.
^^^This.
You have no idea if she's telling the truth about her life. She could be a serial cheater with a loving husband who is unaware. She could have an STD. She could have 10 kids at home. You definitely don't know that she has an open marriage.
If she can cheat so easily, she's hardly a quality person, and probably has some emotional baggage she's carrying around that you don't need to get tangled up with. Emotionally healthy people don't behave like this.
OP, you don't paint yourself in a flattering light either, if what you care about is being seen by others with pretty girls, so hey, maybe this girl is right up your alley. Like attracts like...
When she's divorced she is fair game. Otherwise stay the #### away.
Thanks. Granted this is not your typical american marriage. As selfish as i sound, i feel like i just want to play around and know its ok by both parties..
All this being said, i would never want my wife to do that but i would establish this way beforehand..
Hey guys i have conflicting emotions. To start off i am in my mid 20's and i am currently single. I met this married girl in her early 30's a couple of weeks ago and to make a long story short, we made out. We have kissed a couple of times since but we could brush it off because we were drunk. There has not been an incident where we kissed sober. We got to know each other and of course i find out she is not too happy with her marriage.
This may sound like a cliche story but she is not just an ordinary girl. She is from a foreign country and is just starting to learn the american culture. She acknowledged that her husband has cheated and they have a consensus that being with a significant other is not a threat to end there relationship.
So my question is what should i do exactly? She is easily the prettiest girl i have ever messed with and probably will ever mess around with. Should i swallow the guilty pill and proceed with becoming more sexual? Or should i do the politically correct this and just back away and cut contact. I like to flirt and i like to be seen with pretty girls. Not trying to sound like an alpha male of any sort, but that is just a natural trait of mine..
Any advice is appreciated and i will not feel bad about any ill-comments that is thrown my way...
Do what you want. If you want to have a sexual relationship with her, do so. It's a free country. The morality of it is a matter of opinion, not fact. That's something you have to decide for yourself. If you feel you wouldn't enjoy doing it, then don't. If you would enjoy doing it and want to, then go for it.
You have no idea if she's telling the truth about her life. She could be a serial cheater with a loving husband who is unaware. She could have an STD. She could have 10 kids at home. You definitely don't know that she has an open marriage.
If she can cheat so easily, she's hardly a quality person, and probably has some emotional baggage she's carrying around that you don't need to get tangled up with. Emotionally healthy people don't behave like this.
OP, you don't paint yourself in a flattering light either, if what you care about is being seen by others with pretty girls, so hey, maybe this girl is right up your alley. Like attracts like...
Appreciate the comment. I know her well enough to know she does not have kids at home or an STD. I have reasons to believe she is as normal as possible. I agree with your statement on cheating and no way condone it. I can see i made myself look and i apologize. I just want to live life where i look back and can laugh about it and say i been through stuff. I obviously do not want to live with regret...
Well it's not quite a emotional relationship where i want her to leave someone for me. I guess we can chalk it up as lust. I know it is morally and ethically wrong, but i am not quite sure how wrong it is if there is no extreme negative impact.
Question: If you were guaranteed a successful sexual relationship without being caught, would you attempt knowing a few years from now, it wont be on your conscious?
No extreme negative impact for whom??? How you feel about it is not how everyone else in the situation would feel about it. And why wouldn't it be on your conscience? Are you a sociopath?
You can have a successful sexual relationship without having to get involved with a married woman. My guess is you're just caught up in the thrill of it all, and it's blinding you to reality.
Do what you want. If you want to have a sexual relationship with her, do so. It's a free country. The morality of it is a matter of opinion, not fact. That's something you have to decide for yourself. If you feel you wouldn't enjoy doing it, then don't. If you would enjoy doing it and want to, then go for it.
Thanks for the view. I guess that breaks it down as simple as possible. It pretty much is all a matter of opinion and is subjective..
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