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So I've been on Match for a little while now and decided to upgrade my account to see what's out there...
I started talking to this one guy on there for a couple of weeks and he seemed sweet. So we exchanged numbers and text everyday for another week or so. Then we go out for the first time a week ago and I had a blast. We just went out for some Latin food and dancing and it ended up being one of the best dates I've ever been on cuz he was so sweet and fun, and it didn't hurt that the food and drinks were awesome, plus he was so fun about showing me how to salsa :P. I admittedly have 2 left feet so I appreciated his patience lol. He was basically a real breath of fresh air compared to the men I've been out with recently...
I was already nervous about meeting him, and I think it's because I'm black and he's not...there was some nervous ness about that but I think it was only on my part and definitely not his. So he asks me to go to a baseball game with him today and im nervous about it! Why? Well, I think part of it is because we haven't talked on the phone at all yet. We text daily but I still feel like I'd like more one on one time with him before going to an event where I'll be surrounded by a bunch of people he knows that I don't... :/ I mean, we're supposed to be tailgating so I know it'll be a large group of people.
I actually want to cancel but think that would be rude. Am I the only one who would be nervous in such a scenario...???
Honey, exactly why are you nervous is the question I want to ask?
Sounds like he is enjoying your company too, besides men are not that talkative and might plan things where there is little or no communication. They like sports. I would go and just have fun. You can see how he acts around his friends to see if he is a nice guy. If he acts mean in any sort of way you will know he's not for you after all right? Plus they'll surely give you hints as the type of man he is in their conversations, especially the SO of his male friends. So go and have fun.
Honey, exactly why are you nervous is the question I want to ask?
Sounds like he is enjoying your company too, besides men are not that talkative and might plan things where there is little or no communication. They like sports. I would go and just have fun. You can see how he acts around his friends to see if he is a nice guy. If he acts mean in any sort of way you will know he's not for you after all right? Plus they'll surely give you hints as the type of man he is in their conversations, especially the SO of his male friends. So go and have fun.
Why am I nervous..? Well because its just my personality. I get nervous about everything lol But particularly social situations...I don't necessarily like big groups of people I don't know...I'm an introvert and also pretty shy/slow to open up to others. He'll, I almost cancelled the first date cuz I was nervous about dancing lol
THe only way to get over this type of anxiety is to challenge it head on, every opportunity you get. You dont have to be a shrink or a therapist to know this. If youre anxious in social situations, get your butt out there and be social. There is no magic pill to fix this, and while it may be uncomfortable at times, remember "life begins just outside your comfort zone".
THe only way to get over this type of anxiety is to challenge it head on, every opportunity you get. You dont have to be a shrink or a therapist to know this. If youre anxious in social situations, get your butt out there and be social. There is no magic pill to fix this, and while it may be uncomfortable at times, remember "life begins just outside your comfort zone".
I don't typically do this, but I agree with Ascension.
Wear a cute outfit, smile a lot and enjoy. It is good for you that he wants to take you around his friends so soon. You will learn a lot about him. It is tailgating, not a house party... Go and have fun.
THe only way to get over this type of anxiety is to challenge it head on, every opportunity you get. You dont have to be a shrink or a therapist to know this. If youre anxious in social situations, get your butt out there and be social. There is no magic pill to fix this, and while it may be uncomfortable at times, remember "life begins just outside your comfort zone".
I agree. The unknown is our greatest fear. Once you confront/experience that "fear", you'll be more comfortable the next time. The only way to advance in life is to take the challenges head on.
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