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Is it okay for a guy to check out the occasional dating profile while you're dating somebody steady?
I'm not talking about someone who is actively searching for other people to date. I am talking about someone who might have seen an ad as match advertises on a number of sites, thought the picture was interesting, and clicked.
I'm all about intent, so this is completely harmless to me.
The guy is not actively searching on dating sites, but still has a sign up from an old account. He is not actively searching the site or looking at dating profiles.
What if you see an advertisement on another site like the local newspaper featuring a banner for match dot com? You think the picture of one of the candidates is cute, and you just click on it without any intent to date or contact her? It's just eye candy and you want to look at the pictures and are curious about the profile.
Is this so wrong?
You would do the same thing at the mall if someone caught your eye, wouldn't you?
The guy is not actively searching on dating sites, but still has a sign up from an old account. He is not actively searching the site or looking at dating profiles.
What if you see an advertisement on another site like at the local newspaper? You think the picture is cute, and you just click on it without any intent to date or contact her? It's just eye candy and you want to look at the picture.
Is this so wrong?
You would do the same thing at the mall if someone caught your eye, wouldn't you?
Yes, it's wrong. You can explain it any way that you want to - it's still wrong. It's a dating website and you are looking at it because you find someone attractive - yet you are in a relationship.
Yes, it's wrong. You can explain it any way that you want to - it's still wrong. It's a dating website and you are looking at it because you find someone attractive - yet you are in a relationship.
Even with no intent to date, contact that person or with no sexual arousal involved? Just to get a fix of eye candy?
I don't think this is very realistic.
You guys place a lot of significance in the fact that the link is at a dating site. How is this different than when you're with your SO at the mall and someone catches your eye?
I don't think it matters if the guy isn't actively searching for dates. Just human nature, isn't it?
You're playing with fire by targeting a website where singles go to look for partners. It's implied that if you're spending time on these sites, you're curious in single women (whether just physically or for more).
Why not look at naked women on porn sites or erotic tumblrs? There's infinite amount of eye candy resources on the internet that doesn't involve targeting singles that are reaching out to meet men. It seems you're more stimulated by their availability and personal features they're advertising rather than their pictures.
But like the other posters have hinted, if you're this motivated to be checking out other women, and if you have to ask if it's okay, you've got issues you should sort out before entering a serious relationship and possibly hurting someone's feelings.
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You guys place a lot of significance in the fact that the link is at a dating site. How is this different than when you're with your SO at the mall and someone catches your eye?
The difference is that the woman at the mall is strictly attractive because of her looks. This is a very impersonal and casual connection you make with someone just by checking them out. It's human nature. But if you're on the dating website looking at women, you're getting a glimpse of their personal lives. Some women would label this as "emotional cheating". They'll say that if you're satisfied with your current woman, you shouldn't feel any need to click through other people's dating profiles to look for personal information, personality types, etc.
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