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Okay so I was just on POF and I saw this guy I used to work with. We weren't friends or anything & only spoke in passing. He was in a different department than me. I had a little crush on him. He seemed really nice and I thought he was really cute.
Well I left my job about 8 months ago and never ran into him or anything. Then boom I'm looking on POF and there he is. I didn't recognize him until i clicked on the profile.
Would it be too weird to send him a message? He may not even remember me. I asked my old coworker/friend if he still works there and she said no. His profile says he lives 3 hours ago but he came up on my list as being 2 miles away.
I need opinions. I have never sent anyone a message first on POF. I'm just so nervous. My friend said I should send him a message, but she's really bold and will approach anyone. I am going to look back and see if be viewed my profile. If he views it and I get no message should I just take that as he's not interested.
Okay so I was just on POF and I saw this guy I used to work with. We weren't friends or anything & only spoke in passing. He was in a different department than me. I had a little crush on him. He seemed really nice and I thought he was really cute.
Well I left my job about 8 months ago and never ran into him or anything. Then boom I'm looking on POF and there he is. I didn't recognize him until i clicked on the profile.
Would it be too weird to send him a message? He may not even remember me. I asked my old coworker/friend if he still works there and she said no. His profile says he lives 3 hours ago but he came up on my list as being 2 miles away.
I need opinions. I have never sent anyone a message first on POF. I'm just so nervous. My friend said I should send him a message, but she's really bold and will approach anyone. I am going to look back and see if be viewed my profile. If he views it and I get no message should I just take that as he's not interested.
Thanks :-)
When I saw an interesting cute guy on pof, I sent him a message like this, "hey, this is Lily, you sound interesting, good luck with your search."
I basically gave him a compliment WITHOUT letting him know I was interested. I just wanted to wish him good luck, I don't think I sound too straight forward, direct, or desperate.
Okay so I was just on POF and I saw this guy I used to work with. We weren't friends or anything & only spoke in passing. He was in a different department than me. I had a little crush on him. He seemed really nice and I thought he was really cute.
Well I left my job about 8 months ago and never ran into him or anything. Then boom I'm looking on POF and there he is. I didn't recognize him until i clicked on the profile.
Would it be too weird to send him a message? He may not even remember me. I asked my old coworker/friend if he still works there and she said no. His profile says he lives 3 hours ago but he came up on my list as being 2 miles away.
I need opinions. I have never sent anyone a message first on POF. I'm just so nervous. My friend said I should send him a message, but she's really bold and will approach anyone. I am going to look back and see if be viewed my profile. If he views it and I get no message should I just take that as he's not interested.
When I saw an interesting cute guy on pof, I sent him a message like this, "hey, this is Lily, you sound interesting, good luck with your search."
I basically gave him a compliment WITHOUT letting him know I was interested. I just wanted to wish him good luck, I don't think I sound too straight forward, direct, or desperate.
I got a response back 100% of the time so far.
Hope it helps. Good luck!
That's good suggestion. The only thing I wonder is if he recognizes me and thinks its weird I didn't mention we used to work together.
I need to stop being so nervous *sigh* it's not like I have a high chance of running into him. He didn't check out my profile.
We don't work together anymore. So do you think I shouldn't mention the fact that we used to work together.
You should definitely play as many games as possible:
Pretend that you don't recognize him
Look at his profile but don't write him and home that he writes you back.
Whatever you do don't be open and honest .
Put as many layers of deceit and insecurity between you and he as possible.
This is the best relationship advice eva!
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