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Old 04-26-2013, 02:41 PM
 
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I've been interested in a guy at work for the past couple of months and he seems to be interested too. A little over a month ago, I ran into him on the street, but he was on his phone and with a friend and couldn't talk. He gave me a big smile, said hi, and held eye contact with me. The next time I saw him at work (the following week), we gave each other huge smiles, knowing we had something to talk about. I was so nervous I couldn't think of anything to say, so I walked past him. He obviously wanted to talk, so he followed me down the hallway to ask about running into me on the street. His eyes never left mine and I could tell he was interested, only there were too many people around for him to ask me out. (There are a lot of gossips where I work, so I'd never want anyone to know if we date. I'm sure he realizes that too.)

The problem? I haven't run into him since then. Our place is huge and, despite all my best efforts, I have not been able to run into him. There's an event in our city tomorrow that I'm almost positive he'll attend, and it's right next to a trail that I bike along (he knows I'm active). So my question is, do I try to "accidentally" run into him at this event? Is that weird? Is it too aggressive? Am I a creepy stalker for trying to run into him?

As far as I can tell, he's not married and doesn't have a girlfriend.
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Old 04-26-2013, 02:46 PM
 
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I've been interested in a guy at work for the past couple of months and he seems to be interested too. A little over a month ago, I ran into him on the street, but he was on his phone and with a friend and couldn't talk. He gave me a big smile, said hi, and held eye contact with me. The next time I saw him at work (the following week), we gave each other huge smiles, knowing we had something to talk about. I was so nervous I couldn't think of anything to say, so I walked past him. He obviously wanted to talk, so he followed me down the hallway to ask about running into me on the street. His eyes never left mine and I could tell he was interested, only there were too many people around for him to ask me out. (There are a lot of gossips where I work, so I'd never want anyone to know if we date. I'm sure he realizes that too.)

The problem? I haven't run into him since then. Our place is huge and, despite all my best efforts, I have not been able to run into him. There's an event in our city tomorrow that I'm almost positive he'll attend, and it's right next to a trail that I bike along (he knows I'm active). So my question is, do I try to "accidentally" run into him at this event? Is that weird? Is it too aggressive? Am I a creepy stalker for trying to run into him?

As far as I can tell, he's not married and doesn't have a girlfriend.

It may not be worth it to go JUST b/c you think you'll see him. The reason is that you may hate being there and he may not be present.

In terms of it being creepy, that's not a concern. If I found out, it wouldn't bother me. It's not like you're showing up at his front door.

TBH, dipping your pen in the company ink is generally a bad idea. I know you've heard it before, but it's true. At a large company, it may not be as bad but is definitely not wise at smaller companies.
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Old 04-26-2013, 02:48 PM
 
Location: On the corner of Grey Street
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Until he actually asks you out I'm not sure how you can know he is interested. It seems pretty creepy honestly to go somewhere hoping to run into a guy.
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Old 04-26-2013, 02:58 PM
 
Location: Fairfax, VA
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Am I a creepy stalker for trying to run into him?

Fishermen deliberately go where the fish are.
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Old 04-26-2013, 03:01 PM
 
Location: Free From The Oppressive State
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I've been interested in a guy at work for the past couple of months and he seems to be interested too. A little over a month ago, I ran into him on the street, but he was on his phone and with a friend and couldn't talk. He gave me a big smile, said hi, and held eye contact with me. The next time I saw him at work (the following week), we gave each other huge smiles, knowing we had something to talk about. I was so nervous I couldn't think of anything to say, so I walked past him. He obviously wanted to talk, so he followed me down the hallway to ask about running into me on the street. His eyes never left mine and I could tell he was interested, only there were too many people around for him to ask me out. (There are a lot of gossips where I work, so I'd never want anyone to know if we date. I'm sure he realizes that too.)

The problem? I haven't run into him since then. Our place is huge and, despite all my best efforts, I have not been able to run into him. There's an event in our city tomorrow that I'm almost positive he'll attend, and it's right next to a trail that I bike along (he knows I'm active). So my question is, do I try to "accidentally" run into him at this event? Is that weird? Is it too aggressive? Am I a creepy stalker for trying to run into him?

As far as I can tell, he's not married and doesn't have a girlfriend.
ABSOLUTELY! (Meaning, "accidentally" run in to him at an event that you are pretty sure he'll be attending. Nothing wrong with that. The only time it's wrong is if he has clearly indicated he does NOT want you near him.)
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Old 04-26-2013, 03:17 PM
 
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Yes go but talk to/meet new people and be prepared not to see him in case he didn't attend.
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Old 04-26-2013, 03:25 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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I would. When I really like someone, I try to put myself in their path as much as possible. I've never been accused of being creepy!
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Old 04-26-2013, 05:07 PM
 
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Sounds like it'd be a lot easier to run into him at work
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Old 04-26-2013, 05:10 PM
 
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Fishermen deliberately go where the fish are.
That's why I hang out in the women's shoe department.
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Old 04-26-2013, 05:50 PM
 
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Thanks for the responses. I'm still on the fence about going because I'm not sure if it's too obvious or not, but the location being next to a trail I frequently use makes it seem like it would be really accidental if I stopped by to check out the event.

I guess the real issue is that I'm impatient, since I thought we were really making progress the last time I saw him. It's hard to believe it's been more than a month since I've seen him, and I just want to know if it's worth continuing to pursue or just find someone else. The truth is, I can't spend another summer alone without fear of a breakdown, so I need to move onto someone else to date if he's not interested. I have been single for a very long time and am afraid it will spark a major depression if I'm not at least actively dating this summer.
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