Is it possible to ever have a relationship with a girl who thinks your unattractive? (older, family)
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Let me tell you this OP. I understand your situation, I've been in it. You fall head over heels for a perfect woman but she doesn't reciprocate. You hope that one day she will, but for all intents and purposes, you should treat life as if that her falling in love with you is NOT GOING TO HAPPEN.
...But one day you will meet another girl, just as perfect as she is. At first you won't be particularly interested in each other and then BOOM you will both be lusting after each other and you'll be treating her as if she is the only thing in the world that matters. Then you will either break up or get married. That's how love works.
Moving on and; "getting over it" is not the solution. That will not make me happy. The only thing that will make me truly happy, is if I achieve my goal.
Ok do you have some mental issues? You sound like a psycho right here. Man have ONEITIS. No joke.
There is a solution you just refuse to see it. There is NO OTHER SOLUTION.
Please, for the love of God, see a therapist.
Thread after thread, nobody believes there is any chance that this girl will ever give you a chance. She doesn't want to, she doesn't have to, and I don't think any of us even think that you deserve one. You don't even know her. At all.
See a therapist. We CANNOT help you because you refuse to be helped. Please get help before it is too late.
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Why even bother posting here if all you do is plant seeds of negativity and hopelessness regarding my goal?
If you don't have anything positive, or even constructive to say; please refrain from posting here. Perhaps you should find another thread to offer your patronizing "advice".
Why even bother posting here if all you do is plant seeds of negativity and hopelessness regarding my goal?
Actually Jay Watson, everything Dewdrop has advised you of has been wise counsel.
It "feels" negative to you because the truth is uncomfortable for someone running away from reality.
Our "feelings" cannot always be trusted, something you need to learn to progress in your maturity.
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Why even bother posting here if all you do is plant seeds of negativity and hopelessness regarding my goal?
Your biggest problem is that you are only thinking about yourself. If the girl does not find you attractive,
LET HER GO.
Letting someone go may be the hardest thing you'll do in recent time, but it will be for the best of them. If you truly loved her you'd recognize that she isn't happy with you, for whatever reason, and you would respect respect her wishes.
Go look for other girls that are just as good as this girl.
I would surmise they are, or have other issues which have impacted him negatively.
Dad is 59. Mom is 54. That is not what I would consider elderly in my opinion.
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