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Old 04-27-2013, 12:47 PM
 
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Not necessarily because there is anything wrong with your looks, but simply because she is not attracted to you - there is no chemistry.

You can be the best looking man in the world - but if a woman doesn't feel the chemistry there will be no attraction.

Try hard to get that.
Yep. Even people in hollywood have people that don't like their features.

 
Old 04-27-2013, 12:48 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Sorry to break it to you, but thats the way it is. Attraction is necessary for most people to have a relationship. .
This may sound silly; but I would love to know exactly why (it is so important)??
 
Old 04-27-2013, 12:50 PM
 
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This may sound silly; but I would love to know exactly why (it is so important)??
You're not planning to stay a virgin forever are yeh?
 
Old 04-27-2013, 12:52 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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This may sound silly; but I would love to know exactly why (it is so important)??
If she looked like a completely different person - would you still be obsessed with her? Say she looked like Roseanne Barr - would that change your feelings toward her?
 
Old 04-27-2013, 12:54 PM
 
Location: Texas
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You're not planning to stay a virgin forever are yeh?
Why do you ask? Why is that important?
 
Old 04-27-2013, 12:55 PM
 
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If she looked like a completely different person - would you still be obsessed with her? Say she looked like Roseanne Barr - would that change your feelings toward her?
Most likely.

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Because; it is far from the most important thing in a true relationship. Her refusal the get to know me based on what is outside is not logical.

I admire her for both her appearance and intellectual abilities/personality. Looks should never have the emphasis of being a deciding factor.
 
Old 04-27-2013, 01:08 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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This may sound silly; but I would love to know exactly why (it is so important)??
Why is attraction important?

Because this is the way human beings were designed.

No attraction means no interest.
 
Old 04-27-2013, 01:19 PM
 
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Jay, I suggest that you read books in the social studies section of your library, or even just look on the web. You can look up topics on attraction, relationships, friendships, men vs. women behavior and actions, etc. I find human behaviors and social interactions interesting, so I often read up on it to understand more about it. Doing so is fun and it will help you learn a lot.
 
Old 04-27-2013, 01:44 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Jay, I suggest that you read books in the social studies section of your library, or even just look on the web. You can look up topics on attraction, relationships, friendships, men vs. women behavior and actions, etc. I find human behaviors and social interactions interesting, so I often read up on it to understand more about it. Doing so is fun and it will help you learn a lot.
That is a good idea....Perhaps I will.
 
Old 04-27-2013, 01:58 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Because; it is far from the most important thing in a true relationship. Her refusal the get to know me based on what is outside is not logical.

I admire her for both her appearance and intellectual abilities/personality. Looks should never have the emphasis of being a deciding factor.
It's how the world works. ^^^^

I think you should send her the letter.
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