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When I was younger, like in my teens and early twenties, yes totally I was in love with the idea of "Opposites attract."
Now, with experience, I can vouch to say the opposite.
Someone who's similar inspires me!
Having someone opposite requires too much energy to make up for the differences, while staying with someone similar, the energy becomes more focused on my passions and sharing similar life goals.
I want someone who balances me, not my clone. I am happiest with someone who shares similar values and a similar outlook on what's important in life, but who has a perhaps different kind of intelligence or skill set.
I think opposites have a stronger (as in more profound) attraction to each other instinctively. If they appreciate/support each others differences and praise each other for them, then they will be happier in the long run. If they criticize each other or complain about their differences then they won't be happy in the long run. IMO, opposites have a greater overall potential reward for happiness than similars but being similar is easier and yields contentment and that's more important to some people. And I think it goes without saying that almost everyone wants to share important core values with their partner.
I think the only case when opposite attracts is when it is complements each others. For instance a good talker fits well with a good listener. A high income earner can fit well with a stay at home mom.
But apart from that I believe equals attract. I don't see many fit people date non-fit people. Republicans normally don't date Democrats, and Democrats normally don't date Republicans. Outdoor people date outdoor people. Indoor people date indoor people. Geek dates geeks, etc.
There are of course exceptions, but that is because you can't help who you are falling in love with.
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