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I don't care to date a genius, but someone who can have a conversation about a wide range of topics would be pretty necessary.. or they'd probably grow tired of me talking all the time.
I've met girls who just aren't capable of holding a conversation on many "intelligent" subjects.. but does that make them dumber? It's possible, but not necessarily true, some things might just bore them.
Either way though, most guys do want their women to have intelligence.
DH is recently 40. I am pushing mid-forties. (groan) He jokes that he can easily attract a 20-something. But then she would open her mouth and he would have to stick his junk in it.
In the Real World, relationships are more about laughing together, doing things together, sharing things together, certainly including sexuality. But if you are not on the same intellectual page, be it anywhere on the spectrum, then connection will be tough.
I saw that too...and my first thought when I read the title was "yes...yes you are"
Sorry OP...can't resist!
No sweat. I understand the internet provides us with a means of being umm not nice from behind a curtain. This brings out the true nature of the online community without any real consequence.
One day while walking with a friend of mine, we run into a woman we both know. She's beautiful, slim, fit, blonde so I ask my friend later why he doesn't date her. I can tell she likes him and she has guys seeking her out all the time. He goes "Sorry man. She's very beautiful. It's a shame she's stupid. I need a woman I can have an intelligent conversation with." Now she's not a moron. She actively eats healthy and keeps her body in shape with rigorous exercise. She doesn't have any known issues. She just doesn't know much about anything. She's clueless when most topics come up. Kind of like the stereotypical beach blonde. I just thought it was an interesting thing to hear someone say. She'll definitely find someone because she's beautiful but you rarely hear a man not wanting to date a beautiful woman just because of a lack of intelligence. I guess the question is what if every man only sought after intelligent women regardless of beauty?
I'm pretty intelligent and I dated this man who was pretty intelligent and wanted someone intelligent, but instead of having intelligent conversations, it seemed he would have conversations about intelligence. ie asking me questions of did I graduate from college (when I told him I did on our first meeting, just means he wasn't listening), what my long term career goals were (I told him what they were, but they weren't good enough for him financially so he kept asking what my backup plans were), and basically pretentious questions trying to make me feel bad about myself when there really isn't anything to feel bad about. It started to seem more like an interview rather than just having fun talking about things. In short, he was a pain to talk to because of his constant search for "intelligence". He's a real d!ck hah.
I'm pretty intelligent and I dated this man who was pretty intelligent and wanted someone intelligent, but instead of having intelligent conversations, it seemed he would have conversations about intelligence. ie asking me questions of did I graduate from college (when I told him I did on our first meeting, just means he wasn't listening), what my long term career goals were (I told him what they were, but they weren't good enough for him financially so he kept asking what my backup plans were), and basically pretentious questions trying to make me feel bad about myself when there really isn't anything to feel bad about. It started to seem more like an interview rather than just having fun talking about things. In short, he was a pain to talk to because of his constant search for "intelligence". He's a real d!ck hah.
Yeah he sounds like a deutsch. Too bad intelligence doesn't come with decent personality traits. Those need to be developed separately. Looks like he was searching for a wife "worthy" of his time.
Intellegence, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder. And in both cases, through effort, improvements can be made. I'll take someone with a good and kind heart over the other attributes. Who wants a beautiful and intellegent person that is a selfish self-centered SOB. Attractiveness has many aspects to it.
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