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I used to cook for dates, but not anymore. All the men in my family cook, and I always loved doing it. I've gotten pretty good over the years. But at some point all the women I knew started having food issues of one kind or another.
It wasn't allergies or anything like that. It was always self-imposed issues--vegetarians, vegans, macrobiotic, Atkins, South Beach, Paleo, free-range, organic, locally-sourced, blah blah blah. "I don't eat meat, but I eat fish. But only if it's sea bass or tuna. And only if it's in sushi. Otherwise I'll just have chicken. And I don't eat eggs, unless they're brown eggs hatched locally from free-range chickens. Or unless it's in creme brulee--then I don't care where they're from, because YUM! Oh, and I just started the whole Paleo thing, so I don't eat grains. Which is OK, because I avoid gluten anyway. Oh, you got ciabatta from Whole Foods? I'll have it, then, because that doesn't really count."
Made trying to plan a menu into a royal headache, and sucked the fun right out.
When I was dating my wife, I cooked meals for her and she did the same for me. I get home first, so I end up doing most of the cooking. She usually ends up preparing the salad or cuts up any vegetables, so we do work together.
My wife and I both like to cook, and often we cook together for guests that are coming to dinner. I have my specialties, but everything she cooks she is good at. When we were dating she stopped by my home every Wednesday night for dinner. My house was located between her house and her work location, so stopping by was easy. On many of those Wednesday nights I would have dinner just about ready when she reached my home. I owned my own business so I could come home anytime I wanted to. She works one day a week now, yep, Wednesday, so usually on Wednesday night we eat out or I prepare dinner. We have eaten out for over 10 years now, every Thursday night, at the same restaurant. When we walk into the lounge where we have our dinner, the bar tender has already set up place settings for us and usually has poured our drinks. I would never have dated a person who couldn't cook, but with my woman I hit the jackpot...
I only cooked for the ones who were worth my time and energy (which was very few)
I tell my kids, don't PLAY hard to get. BE hard to get. I get discouraged and sad at the people on this board who don't know that. Each of us is a person inside. Why sell yourself short. Why think getting a mate is the thing. BE wonderful, and no one will fail to notice.
I cook and have cooked for dates (the meals I've made even surprised me). However, I've stopped cooking for dates, sense it seems women don't like men who can cook.
Cooking is fun. It's a great dating activity because it allows for interaction and creativity on so many levels. It is not a cheap way out of paying for dinner out. It may end up costing more.
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Originally Posted by Prince_Frog
I started calling women who can't cook "Take-out queens" since the only real chef in the kitchen for them is the microwave, and they spend a lot of money getting take-out almost exclusively.
I don't know if I"ll ever date again, but one of the skills I'm going to be looking for is the ability to cook. It doesn't have to include exotic dishes, but she has to not be afraid of touching uncooked meat, and have a good idea of some spices they know will mix well together and want to try different food. I've found that women who I've dated in the past who didn't possess the ability to cook or didn't want to try different dishes became a turn-off.
Believe it or not, I don't find myself attracted to women who don't cook. Not for me (I like cooking), but for themselves. Something very sexy about a woman who likes to and does cook, and it doesn't have to mean something elaborate either. I think you can tell a lot by a person-man or woman-from how they are in the kitchen and around food.
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