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I guess it was worth it to deal with my unattractiveness for the time being.
You need to take it easy on yourself Jet. I dont stand in the mirror each morning telling myself how hot I look but I don't dog on myself every chance I get either. It seems like half of your posts involve some kind of negative comment towards your own looks. You need to understand that looks will only help attract a mate. It's your character and personality that will keep a mate.
I wonder what I'd see if I saw you at the grocery store?
You need to take it easy on yourself Jet. I dont stand in the mirror each morning telling myself how hot I look but I don't dog on myself every chance I get either. It seems like half of your posts involve some kind of negative comment towards your own looks. You need to understand that looks will only help attract a mate. It's your character and personality that will keep a mate.
I wonder what I'd see if I saw you at the grocery store?
But, as has been said more times than I can remember on this forum, if you're not attracted to the person no amount of character and personality is going to keep them around. It's just the honest truth.
And I don't dog on myself either, I go by what other people have told me and for some reason random people like to pick on my looks so I know it's not just me. Have you ever been told on a first date that you're 'unfortunate looking?' I mean, my ex told me he was embarrassed to be seen with me in public because of the way I looked. He wouldn't even hug me in public and introduced me as his 'friend' even after we'd been together for years.
Honestly, I don't even think I'm bad looking and on some days I think I look downright awesome. I just think I have enough small physical flaws that push me into the realm of 'eh, not worth it' for most men.
there is a big difference between the cheater that seeks out affairs and the cheater that gets caught in the moment and loses control of themselves. they are both wrong, but one is malicious much more of a butthole.
....coworkers. seems to be a big problem where i work. spend alot time with your coworkers, sometimes more than with your own spouse. and there is no domestic responsibilities and stress with your coworkers.
At the most basic level, people cheat in relationship because strict monogamy is just not a biological truth for most people.
Don't get me wrong: some percentage of people desire strict monogamy are perfectly content with it. But for many others, maintaining strict monogamy is a difficult, stressful, unhappy experience. It isn't "natural" for them at all.
I don't think the problem is cheating. I think the problem is out culture's insistence that strict monogamy is the best way, even the only way, for everyone. It isn't.
I call B.S. This is about choices that people have control over. If you firmly believe you are NOT MEANT TO COMMIT TO ONE PERSON, then don't get into a relationship with someone who has that expectation. If you choose to commit to a monogamous relationship, then follow through. If you can't do that, don't enter in. Nobody puts a gun to your head and says you must be in a monogamous relationship. But if you choose it, own it.
The bolded is something I've always wondered too, OP. There are a lot of reasons, I think. Some people are just immature and not ready for commitment. Some cheat because they're not getting enough sex from their spouse. If sex drives are very mis-matched, then it becomes a problem.
Opportunism and pursuing of personal indulgence.
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Originally Posted by lordvader44
I call BS on this. Humans DO NOT have a biological need to kill if we get "cheezed" off with each other.If this were true human behavior we would have gone extinct long ago.We are group and herd animals and that kind of behavior upsets the herd.Even lower animals don't randomly kill there own kind when they get pissed off. Yes humans kill each other but the vast majority would never kill our fellow man even if we could get away with it.
Life made me grow up pretty fast due to a war. What I can tell you is that you are terribly wrong. It requires an essay about just how delusional you truly are.
You don't need a reason to cheat, only desire and opportunity. You need a reason to NOT cheat that's stronger.
the truth...we need to stop focusing on the reason TO cheat and focus on the reason(s) Not to
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