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Why do you think so many married people cheat? I ve come across many married people that have stated they have cheated on ther husbands/wives, and have said it with no guilt. Particullary men (but women can be doing it equally, i dont know), they dont seem to show any signs of guilt and act like its natural. Why is this? Why do people get married in the first place if they are gonna be cheating on their spouses? Do you think this happens cause monogamy seems difficult to sustain in this society or not? Do you think being faithful is the norm, or is the norm being a cheater? Be honest.
I was in a very long very commited relationship with someone i LOVE (still, yeah) a lot, with all my heart. Never in 7 years i even thought of other men while with him, and wouldnt have ever cheat on him if i would have been with him all my life. I dont think you need to be married to be faithful, i think that if you are with the right person, then the thought of cheating never actually crosses your mind. But it seems to cross the mind of many people that are married or in LTR, and i would like to understand their thought proccess.
Married or in a LTR people that have cheated and could share their experiences would be a plus
There are a number of different reasons people cheat. Some cheat for an ego boost. Others cheat because they feel lonely in the relationship (their SO's aren't giving them the right attention). Some because they are bored and want the excitement of a new relationship. Then there are the ones who are "alpha males". They slept with this many women so they are much more superior and desirable than others. Another reason could be that they were pressured into it through the advances of the opposite sex. they could be weak and not be able to say no. For still others it's just sex.
Men produce a large amount of generative fluid (if you know what I mean) and they have the inborn instinct to mate with as many females as possible so that their genetic material can be successfully passed on to the next generation.
Well, I was going to say most people cheat because there is something missing from their relationship and instead of fixing it, they go looking for it with another person. But those people do tend to feel some guilt and so they try to justify their actions with excuses. People who make no excuses for it and don't see anything wrong with it are just self-absorbed, insensitive jerks, possibly even sociopaths incapable of feeling empathy and understanding the hurt they cause. Some men may do it and not care because it boosts their ego - the old "player" stereotype.
FTR, I don't cheat, this is just my take on it based on observation.
I think nobody "cheats" any more. They simply take an opportunity because they can and because they want. By the way, I know so many people who claim they are monogamous but they aren't. That's not the problem per se, the main problem is that their mindset was not set up for monogamy, it never was, society doesn't support such notion anymore and overwhelming majority of population is outright promiscuous in both their behavior and their mindset.
But just because society still considers monogamy as a good thing and everything else is devious and outright evil - they invent various names to expand monogamy definition to explain even an outright promiscuity as a monogamy.
That being said, false studies, rigged "findings" in the past and in the present are also contributing to motivate people to either join the crew that outright cheats simply to see how it's like, because "everyone else is doing it". But the thing is that they generally have the influence upon couples where one of both spouses have promiscuous mindset or promiscuous past.
Its really quite simple. People are evil. They do all kinds of terrible things for completely selfish reasons. They think it is fun to cheat, so they do. Do they really care about their spouse? They married them for selfish reasons, and now they are cheating for selfish reasons. When the ultimate goal is "my happiness", people are capable of just about anything.
IMO, there not physically attracted to their partner anymore so they go get sex from outside of the relationship. The difference between not being married and being married is you can just get up and leave anytime you want. There's nothing legally binding you together, you probably don't own a home together, and chances are you don't have kids together. Marriage you're kindoff stuck, so many people instead of going through the process of divorce choose to be unfaithful and just try to hide it
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Its really quite simple. People are evil. They do all kinds of terrible things for completely selfish reasons. They think it is fun to cheat, so they do. Do they really care about their spouse? They married them for selfish reasons, and now they are cheating for selfish reasons. When the ultimate goal is "my happiness", people are capable of just about anything.
+1..I think you hit the nail on the head...people ARE evil now and do not give two ****s about someone elses feelings or well being...pretty disgusting really.
I was in a very long very commited relationship with someone i LOVE (still, yeah) a lot, with all my heart. Never in 7 years i even thought of other men while with him, and wouldnt have ever cheat on him if i would have been with him all my life. I dont think you need to be married to be faithful, i think that if you are with the right person, then the thought of cheating never actually crosses your mind. But it seems to cross the mind of many people that are married or in LTR, and i would like to understand their thought proccess.
Married or in a LTR people that have cheated and could share their experiences would be a plus
I know exactly how you feel. Join the club.
What I don't understand is the fact that both people have invested those years and emotions, yet the person who is unhappy/frustrated/bored/whatever won't discuss the issue, won't try to make it better, won't put forth any effort. They just simply throw it all away. That tells me that it wasn't worth much to them to begin with.
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