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1) What do you do for work?
Which really means: How much money do you make and/or are you successful?
This makes it the perfect douche filter question!
Any guy who interprets a question about how he spends the majority of his waking hours as a question about money is too dumb for me.
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4) When was your last relationship?
Which really means: When is the last time you were with someone and/or had sex?
Anyone who isn't comfortable talking honestly about the last time he had sex is too ignorant about STIs to get into my pants. Anyone who doesn't want to say when their last relationship ended is too secretive. And, once again, anyone who misinterprets the question in the paranoid way suggested is not for me, either.
Honest, open, smart, non-paranoid, and non-douchey = I might be interested in a second date.
It's been my experience that people who are serious about wanting to meet someone don't mind "serious" (i.e. potentially boring) questions. It's the guys who are just wanting to "casually" date someone are the ones who prefer the "fluff" questions, and get ticked off or annoyed by more personal/relevent questions...at least that's been MY experience. YMMV.
I remember I was watching a TV show and the episode was about someone going to a dating service. Some the lady was putting her video profile together and she stated that she is looking for a husband and the director of the dating site said........."we don't use the word husband around here"
Then the lady said......."But that's what I want"
The Director then said......"I know that and you know that, but he doesn't need to know that"
Point being is that no woman needs to know how I feel about having kids and being married in the first conversation.
1) What do you do for work?
Which really means: How much money do you make and/or are you successful?
I take it as really meaning: What are you passionate about? What are you devoting your life to doing?
The career a person ends up with says a lot more about them than just how much money they make.
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2) Where do you live?
Which really means: Do you live on your own or with someone?
What's wrong with wanting to know that? That's pretty important information. Also, the neighborhood a person chooses to live in says a lot about their values, particularly in a place like Chicago where (as you know) neighborhoods vary a lot. Besides that, knowing where somebody lives is pretty important dating information from a practical point of view, since there's a difference between traveling 15 minutes to see somebody vs. 2 hours.
Do you really expect to date someone without them knowing what you do for a living or where you live? How many dates do you expect to go on before that information is shared?
It's the guys who are just wanting to "casually" date someone who prefer the "fluff" questions, and get ticked off or annoyed by more personal/relevent questions...
Yep....also known as people who have something to hide. It's not just guys, either.
I take it as really meaning: What are you passionate about? What are you devoting your life to doing?
The career a person ends up with says a lot more about them than just how much money they make.
What's wrong with wanting to know that? That's pretty important information. Also, the neighborhood a person chooses to live in says a lot about their values, particularly in a place like Chicago where (as you know) neighborhoods vary a lot. Besides that, knowing where somebody lives is pretty important dating information from a practical point of view, since there's a difference between traveling 15 minutes to see somebody vs. 2 hours.
Do you really expect to date someone without them knowing what you do for a living or where you live? How many dates do you expect to go on before that information is shared?
What if u r doing a certain job because you need to pay the bills?
Do you really expect to date someone without them knowing what you do for a living or where you live? How many dates do you expect to go on before that information is shared?
Point being is that no woman needs to know how I feel about having kids and being married in the first conversation.
I don't know, I think that's something that needs to be discussed fairly early on. If not during the first initial conversation, than surely by the 1st or 2nd date. For example, I absolutely do not want children. It's a deal-breaker for me. I also am not interested in a relationship with someone who has children.
If someone has children, or if not having children would be a deal breaker for them, it would be quite a waste of time for them to explore a relationship with me, wouldn't it?
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