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Larkspur, would you WANT to be the OUTSIDER? Let me tell you, it ain't fun and sometimes a very humiliating experience.
What I am asking is why she wouldn't think a similar outsider dynamic wouldn't occur when she moves in with taco man and taco mom. I'm not talking about the desire, just why she thinks taco mom would be that different from the dynamic of an ex-wife. My grandma lived with us for a time, so I know first hand how that can be disruptive.
There are great men out there but the divorced dad is not one I am still open to. Also generally not open to divorced men in general. Does it limit my options? oh sure but I am fine with that.
Because I don't want to. Our values are different and am not open to dating a man who will not attend church or even marry in one.
What values are those, besides the fact he would not believe in Christ?
Yes, you have stated you love kids and want your own someday. And I have advised that you should see how Taco Man feels about this because you may need to decide if being with him is more important than being a mother. It's not an easy choice-been there, done that. I chose the man, and in the end ended up widowed at 34 with no children. I'd choose him again in a heartbeat, but I do have times I wish my life had gone down a more traditional route.
You have also stated, however, that you have issues with single dads because they have to spend money on their kids instead of you. Where do you think the bulk of your money is going to go if you have kids of your own someday?
There is a difference between my money go towards any kids I have versus my money going towards kids I had no role in bringing into the world. I am content not having kids if that is what happens.
What I am asking is why she wouldn't think a similar outsider dynamic wouldn't occur when she moves in with taco man and taco mom. I'm not talking about the desire, just why she thinks taco mom would be that different from the dynamic of an ex-wife. My grandma lived with us for a time, so I know first hand how that can be disruptive.
Thanks to the poster who coined "taco mom".
Oh sorry, my very dumb bad. Please forgive my earlier post then.
And you are right about that too. Taco Mom, snicker snicker, I think might be worse than ex Mrs. Taco if there had been one. A man still living with his mommy at that age is going to want his new wife to mother him just like mommy does and could be the reason he doesn't want kids - he'd no longer be the center of attention.
Hear that IDDY, I know we've brought this up to you before but honey you should really, really consider this. I know love can blur a situation but keep your wits about with Taco Man. Don't let your heart overrule your common sense.
I never said I couldn't but no wouldn't marry a man with an annulment if he has kids. Not sure about widowers. However I have a boyfriend so this doesn't pertain to me.
Technically, none of this pertains to you if you have a boyfriend. Yet you insist on starting threads to berate entire demographics of people.
Those are nice sentiments, but they don't exactly portray the realities of parenthood, in the aspect that there are some times where the child's needs do come first. Saying things like marriage should come before your children doesn't work in the day to day realities of dealing with a child who is frequently ill, etc. Taking care of a child does take time, and that means that is less time for the couple. Most are mature enough to realize it, but the article you posted doesn't really reflect that.
Nowadays, in the era of helicopter parenting and children calling adults by their first names, they don't. When I was a kid, there were better boundaries. Parents were parents, not their kids' friends. Adults were adults, and there was a time and place for children. There was far less instant gratification, and kids learned from an early age how to entertain themselves. The French still do things this way, and their kids are much better behaved for it.
Oh sorry, my very dumb bad. Please forgive my earlier post then.
And you are right about that too. Taco Mom, snicker snicker, I think might be worse than ex Mrs. Taco if there had been one. A man still living with his mommy at that age is going to want his new wife to mother him just like mommy does and could be the reason he doesn't want kids - he'd no longer be the center of attention.
Hear that IDDY, I know we've brought this up to you before but honey you should really, really consider this. I know love can blur a situation but keep your wits about with Taco Man. Don't let your heart overrule your common sense.
He's open to kids and he isn't dependent on his mom at all.
Yes he lived with his mom but isn't dependent on her. They live together mostly to save money for the business and he doesn't see a purpose in moving out since he is single. He cooks and cleans and runs the business.
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