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Old 05-05-2013, 04:20 PM
 
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As everyone knows I don't date divorced men and this is no hidden thing. I am pretty blunt on this. Anyway I remember an incident that happened a few months ago and it's been bothering me.

During the whole "does Taco Man like me" I met another guy. He seemed like a nice guy except two major deal breakers with me: he wasn't Catholic, nor was he never married. In fact he was divorced from a long time ago and never remarried. He is 45 and was married from 21-30, no kids. He's also not Catholic either, he's really no religion and is sometime atheist. The religious aspect aside, I immediately rejected him because he was divorced. Once I found out he wasn't religious and really had no interest in marrying in a church I knew he wasn't the one either. However when finding he was divorced I immediately realized that to me all divorced men are no no's because of the fact I will never be the first wife. I never realized how much this bothers me.

He found a woman and he treats her amazing. He spends money on her and time. I'm happy for him and hope he is successful but knew being 2 would not work.

I think I am thinking things today because I am mad at Taco Man. He owns a business and we were supposed to go out today but he had to open his business today for a big account.
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Old 05-05-2013, 04:25 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Lol. Poor Taco man.....poor poor fool.
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Old 05-05-2013, 04:29 PM
 
Location: Middle of the valley
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I'm the 2nd spouse and DH treats me like a queen. We have plenty of money after the kids are taken care of.

He appreciates me more due to the previous marriage.

And how can you get mad enough to start thinking about other guys just because Taco Man had to take care of making a living. You "love" him..... remember?


Oops, technically I am DH's 3rd wife. /lol He's my 2nd husband, my first passed away.
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Old 05-05-2013, 04:29 PM
 
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I realize his business has to come first but I am so disappointed we had to reschedule our plans. This guy I mentioned is a friend of a friend and I didn't meet him as a boyfriend but he was interested in me. Instead I decided to wait for Taco Man.
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Old 05-05-2013, 05:36 PM
 
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I realize his business has to come first but I am so disappointed we had to reschedule our plans. This guy I mentioned is a friend of a friend and I didn't meet him as a boyfriend but he was interested in me. Instead I decided to wait for Taco Man.
Why do you always come across as a silly teenager in your posts?
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Old 05-05-2013, 05:40 PM
 
Location: NYC
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So it's better to be the first wife in a failed marriage then the second in a solid marriage?
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Old 05-05-2013, 05:45 PM
 
Location: SF Bay Area
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You're mad at your BF for cancelling your date so it got you to think about how you don't date divorced men because you don't want to be the second wife?

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Old 05-05-2013, 05:46 PM
 
Location: In the Pearl of the Purchase, Ky
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My wife and I are both third spouses. I've been divorced twice and she was widowed once and divorced once. I know, according to the Bible, we shouldn't marry. But even if I had never been married, her being divorced wouldn't have bothered me a bit. I would rather see somebody divorce than stay in the marriage from hell. My 2nd wife went through a little flack from her church when she married me. I was number 1 for her. She belonged to an Independent Baptist church and, even though I went to church with her, I was still looked down on.
I think you need to listen to your heart when you meet a man, divorced or not. I know several divorced Catholics who have remarried and are very happy.
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Old 05-05-2013, 05:47 PM
 
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you will aways come second to the business.

So you won't be happy with this guy either, because the needs of the business will have to be #1 if he wants to run it successfully.
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Old 05-05-2013, 05:56 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Some of the happiest marriages I know are second marriages. You learn a lot about what you want and don't want, and you don't make those mistakes again.

Your desire to be "the first wife" is just ego-driven. You must have some romanticized notion of "first" being "best."

So naive!

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