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Old 05-12-2013, 07:47 PM
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my advice is don't humiliate him about it. my exboyfriend, an apparent weakling at 6'2" slender with 2t 4t hips ( i could fit a kids 6-8 at the time on the bottom and his hips were narrower than mine) got angry once and pulled a concrete reinforced 4 phone outside phone stAnd out of the ground. tha's the bit that scares people, if they think you're going to abuse them or be violent. if you can do that, you might hit or intimidate him into doing what you want, not as equals ( not saying that you would) that's why people are angry, cuz they're scared. he had relatively narrow shoulders btw.

just tell him that you like him as he is and support his ego. btw, unless it's muscle, 40 lbs is not a huge difference if you work out. hope this helps.

also, at one point, i was big and scary (72 kilos -160 lbs at 5'5.5). i ate meat, had hugemuscular arms and was healthy. however, the only men i attractedwere working class(into strength because they usedit every day) or bodybuilders. you should totally thread this on bodybuilding.com and expect a different response.
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Old 05-12-2013, 08:10 PM
Location: Monterey County California
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You do realize your boyfriend has to move to a new city and change his name now right. That's too funny. My brother always told me never to date a girl who could beat me at wresting but I think he meant someone who was very overweight as a joke. Not what happened here.
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Old 05-13-2013, 08:20 AM
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When i was single i dated a police officer, she kicked my butt coming and going....yup loved the handcuffs.
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Old 05-13-2013, 09:26 AM
Location: Texas
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Originally Posted by picklejuice View Post
Whether you meant to or not, you basically succeeded at slicing your bf's balls off.

BTW, that's never a thing that is considered endearing to a male.

If you hope to salvage the relationship (believe me, it's in the old crapper now) you better never mention or do it again.
You don't think it's kind of sad and lame for the guy's self-worth and masculinity to be wrapped up in how much stronger he is than his girlfriend?

Not very enlightened.

Why can't we be proud of each other's strengths instead of making that a reflection of our weakness?
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Old 05-13-2013, 09:30 AM
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I doubt I've ever been physically stronger than any guy I've dated.

I can confidently say I could have outmatched any guy I've dated in the pool in terms of speed or distance though.
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Old 05-13-2013, 09:31 AM
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i am 5 foot tall and 100 pounds. sure i work out sometimes and i think im pretty strong for my size, but i don't think i could possibly be attracted to a guy weaker than me haha. im a long distance runner though and can usually beat them in long races considering i actually practice for that and they dont.
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Old 05-13-2013, 04:19 PM
Location: North NJ by way of Brooklyn, NY
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My guy likes the fact I'm strong and used to wrestle and kick box. Granted, he is likely stronger than me because when we were play wrestling he easily pinned me down. However at the time we were almost the same weight and now he has 30 lbs on me.

I'm not sure why you need him to admit it. His ego was probably already bruised being beaten by a woman as it is. Your wanting him to admit it screams tendencies to humiliate him or needing your ego stroked.
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Old 05-13-2013, 09:39 PM
Location: The Land of Reason
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My wife tickles me into submission.
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Old 05-13-2013, 11:18 PM
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As a tennis player and coach I'm in fairly good shape, but if I tried to fight my super athletic, martial artist girlfriend, I know she'd beat the crap out of me. But she never mentions it so I don't feel bad. So even if you are stronger, don't rub it in.
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Old 05-15-2013, 03:43 AM
Location: where people are either too stupid to leave or too stuck to move
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Originally Posted by VX5650 View Post
I love wrestling with women, and winning! (disclaimer: all consensual, of course!) :-)
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