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I dont understand questions like this. I've never asked a man if he found a women more attractive than me, never asked a man his opinion on my clothing, or if I look fat, or if he prefers face over body or blonde over brunette.
Guess I abide by the simple conclusion that if he's with me-those questions don't really matter.
Sure, there may be others who have what society considers the ideal measurement but, in total honesty, I don't care as long as I have you to come home to every night.
I think you may have slipped a little here especially if your wife is highly perceptive. Essentially you indicated your wife does not have what society deems as an ideal measurement. And worse, you did not say you don't care because you find her measurements personally ideal, you say you don't care because she is available! If I had to guess, even if you had always been as verbally complimentary as possible about her figure, your outward behavior had not succeeded to quell her existing insecurities, hence her question. Maybe you succeeded with your wife but no, your answer will not pass the test in all cases.
I think you may have slipped a little here especially if your wife is highly perceptive. Essentially you indicated your wife does not have what society deems as an ideal measurement. And worse, you did not say you don't care because you find her measurements personally ideal, you say you don't care because she is available! If I had to guess, even if you had always been as verbally complimentary as possible about her figure, your outward behavior had not succeeded to quell her existing insecurities, hence her question. Maybe you succeeded with your wife but no, your answer will not pass the test in all cases.
Interesting perspective. I think she'll get the gist of my point even if I wasn't as clear as I could have been. At least I hope so!
You had to send an email to communicate with your wife? I find that very weird. I suppose your answer is good, but since you had to email it I would assume it isn't an honest answer. I would think you needed time to come up with the "right" answer.
There's nothing wrong with sending spouse, S/O an email. It's the modern day love letter. To the OP, it was an excellent email. It's awesome when a spouse notices details and it encourages the other to go through efforts, knowing certain things are noticed and not taken for granted.
It's also nice for her to know that you care what she thinks, that you took the time to mull over the answer.
I dont understand questions like this. I've never asked a man if he found a women more attractive than me, never asked a man his opinion on my clothing, or if I look fat, or if he prefers face over body or blonde over brunette.
Guess I abide by the simple conclusion that if he's with me-those questions don't really matter.
Thank you for being sensible. Secure women should not be playing these little testing games. If he likes you, likes you, simple as that.
So, all you guys who imagine that it was a test, how would you expect the question to be phrased if it was not a test, just simple curiosity?
One way to help alleviate concerns as to whether the question is or is not a test could be to provide your answer either before or immediately after the question is asked. Simply throwing the question into the air and letting it hang sometimes gives it an ominous air--like the response is going to be examined closely after it is given. Providing your own opinion along with the question can also shed some light as to why it is being asked in the first place.
@Dim, would you feel the need to do that if you were asking one of your guy friends?
Do you do this when you ask her what she wants for dinner? Throw out your answer before hers? To me, THAT seems more pressure-y.
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