Whats the point in dating if there is so much competition? (movies, girlfriends)
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I was much like the OP. I also don't care for competition with women. So, when I was dating, I just didn't. I didn't go after women who had other guys hanging around, or that had boyfriends or a group of guys who were "friends". I actually tended to look for diamonds in the rough. The shyer type girls, who were more serious, better students etc. There are tons of attractive women who are not being chased by a pack of men, but are nice wonderful people. Change your priorities. Don't follow the pack, date the girls that others don't care for and I bet you'll meet some nice people.
School is a great environment for relationships, I was totally blessed until I graduated and that cocoon disappeared. I went from being a happy fish swimming with other happy fish to being in a dead zone with little oxygen and few fish and no dates.
So for those in school these are probably the best dating years of your life.
I don't even remotely comprehend that type of logic in my life personally, but I am aware some people are quitters when any type of adversity or road block presents itself.
Some people are resilient and up for the challenge, some like things handed to them in nicely wrapped packages.
It is precisely the same type of logic used by 'discouraged workers' who can't find a job and who eventually stop trying. It's not a quick decision and usually takes considerable time for a person to reach that point.
The problem isn't that the single male/single female ratio is 100/1. The problem is that most of those 100 men are all vying for the attention of the "hottest" 1% of women. There are plenty of warm, sweet, funny, charming women out there. It is just that men ignore most of them because they don't feel they are "hot" enough.
I don't believe that. I believe that at any point in time, most women are unavailable for one reason or another. The ones who are available include those who are and those who are not "hot".
Nearly all women but the least (10% - 20%) desirable can get a good catch (if not quite a dreamboat) if they just wait a little longer. So it generally makes sense for most women to be picky and wait a little longer. I think the top 80% of available women are rejecting the bottom 80% of men.
In younger age groups there are more men than women. The bigger issue that skews the sex ratio is the high number of men who cheat. For every husband who has a mistress on the side and for every man with a harem of lovers there will be other men with nothing.
In order for there to be one man for every one woman monogamy needs to be strictly enforced.
The other day one of the threads in this forum sent me to Google to look something up, which led to some idle surfing (sorta like word association where one idea let to a related idea) and I read some posts in a different forum saying that outside North America it's easier for men to get dates, that the rest of the world does not have boatloads of dateless men (or the PUA culture) like we do here. Several people agreed with this, but it's new to me so I have no idea really.
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