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I am beyond the years of starting a new family and have recently divorced. For some time I have enjoyed the company of incredibly beautiful young women - escorts. I now have a sugar baby who makes me very happy but I always intended this to be a stepping stone. Now I am starting to wonder.
The first time around I married a woman who I thought to be a "good woman" with good values who wanted to build a life together. What I got was twenty-five years of misery. In the end it was all about her. So much for true love. I was a damned fool to buy into all of the romantic notions of living happily ever after with my soul mate. It blinded me to how unacceptable life was and how unhappy I was. I had done all of the right things and married a good woman. I must be happy, right? But the fact is that eventually I hated my life. All of the promises of living a good life and doing the right things were total bull. But I didn't really understand that until I was holding a gun to my head with my finger on the trigger.
So now I have to wonder what would really make me happy. If the honeymoon always ends and I am destined to end up kissing ass to some woman who is impossible to make happy, then maybe I should just stick with sugar babies and escorts. At least these relationships are honest. We both know what we want. We treat each other with respect. And in over a year we've never had a disagreement.
A woman doesn't have to be a model in her early twenties like my sugar baby. The youth and looks are a pure joy but that isn't the key. The key is that she gives me what I need without any grief.
So how about it guys. Are there any men who have been married five years or more who really get what they need from their wife, in terms of sex? A survey of friends and family is not encouraging. Most men my age that I know get little to no sex at home any more.
Food and water is a "need." Sex with another person isn't.
I agree with elnina. 79 pages the first time with the same topic of bragging about your "sugar baby."
It's your money and your life. I couldn't do it. This type of situation does not interest me in the least as I'd rather be alone.
If the topic stays I'll answer the question - compatibility, liberal, non-religious, at least somewhat affectionate, no drama, and no hassles. Very difficult to find but I'm not lowering my standards.
Also, must have her own money but she doesn't have to be rich. Just pay your own way.
-physically fit with the intention to stay that way
-likes the outdoors, hiking, parks, water, mountains, trees, warm weather/climates
-not a drama queen. Does not need a large social circle, to party or club all the time, or to text people around the clock.
-of sound character. Honest. Not a manipulative liar. Does not take advantage of the 'weak' for their own gain.
Everything else is flexible to a degree.... it would be great if she loved chasing storms, playing the occasional video game, jogging with me (or biking) and was able to think outside the box, or go outside the herd mentality view as well ... like say a 'nerdy' science girl you'd find at barnes and noble or the local animal shelter... but it's not a requirement. She can bring in all the cash and I could be the stay at home father, that would not bother me one bit. I love yardwork, and would keep the place immaculate if I never had to work. It would be the best landscaped house on the block, and the kids would get showered with attention. Always a dreamer I guess.
This has nothing to do with that thread. At that time I was coming to terms with the feelings I was having about my escort, who is now my sugar baby, and who completely blew me away.
At this time I am questioning the value of even bothering to pursue a regular relationship with the time I have left in my life. Up until now I never doubted that I would eventually seek out a new mate.
Also, as far as I know, the other thread was closed for no reason. But I had almost forgotten about it.
-physically fit with the intention to stay that way
-likes the outdoors, hiking, parks, water, mountains, trees, warm weather/climates
-not a drama queen. Does not need a large social circle, to party or club all the time, or to text people around the clock.
-of sound character. Honest. Not a manipulative liar. Does not take advantage of the 'weak' for their own gain.
Everything else is flexible to a degree.... it would be great if she loved chasing storms, playing the occasional video game, jogging with me (or biking) and was able to think outside the box, or go outside the herd mentality view as well ... like say a 'nerdy' science girl you'd find at barnes and noble or the local animal shelter... but it's not a requirement. She can bring in all the cash and I could be the stay at home father, that would not bother me one bit. I love yardwork, and would keep the place immaculate if I never had to work. It would be the best landscaped house on the block, and the kids would get showered with attention. Always a dreamer I guess.
No sex is okay with you then? What if you have all of that but she doesn't take good care of you in bed, which is where most men seem to land - jacking off alone while being expected to be a good father, a good husband, and loyal.
No sex is okay with you then? What if you have all of that but she doesn't take good care of you in bed, which is where most men seem to land - jacking off alone while being expected to be a good father, a good husband, and loyal.
Then you sit down and TALK about it
COMMUNICATION is the key, if there's a problem that can be resolved by talking it over why make it a bigger issue than needed?
COMMUNICATION is the key, if there's a problem that can be resolved by talking it over why make it a bigger issue than needed?
Frankly, that is a total fallacy. No amount of talk can give a woman back her sex drive. Many women simply lose their drive. Some men do too but I'm definitely not one of them.
I tried for fifteen years to "talk", and all she did was lie, obfuscate, misdirect, and deny. You have no idea how frustrated many men are out there. If a woman doesn't want to change, she will do whatever it takes to avoid the issue.
Beyond that, when the hormone problems set in, there is no way to even make her happy, much less horny.
... but she will definitely blame her husband for her unhappiness nonetheless.
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Always a dreamer I guess.
