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I would have no problem dating a man who was a funeral director. First of all, it's a management position, not a "hands on", so to speak. Unless he lives in a tiny, one-horse town, he has hired help to do the manual labor and I doubt that he ever sees any of his clients.
Look at it this way, the man has serious job security! And last I checked, funerals aren't cheap.
I would just continue dating him for a while and see how you get along. It is, I believe, WAY too soon to meet family, however. He seems very anxious to have a normal, stable, loving relationship again. Who could blame him? But there is no sense rushing things. If it is right, you both will know it.
Has anyone every dated a person in the funeral business? Is anyone involved in this business that could tell me if you go through more challenges than the next person because of your profession? What does anybody/everybody else think? Is anyone now in a relationship with a funeral director? Thanks in advance for your replies even if you say you'd be "creeped out". Just be honest please.
Honestly, I wouldn't be interested. I would wonder why he chose to be a mortician, it's an interesting and unusual choice of work. (I am not being politically correct here, but you ask for honesty.)
I am curious about the emotional stress involved. I cannot imagine anybody who can do the work without being emotionally exhausted.
It's really just a job, and actually quite a respectful one at that. I think making it your life's work to give folks a nice service for their loved ones is a very noble and admirable profession.
A lot of funeral businesses are family run. It very well could have been dad/mom's gig and now it's his.
A guy who works basically to make other people feel good, a stable business at that (people are always dying to put it not so nicely ), what's not to like?
I think you're focusing on his career too much. I feel our society places WAY too much taboo around death. What an interesting relationship this could be. It's also not like he's asking you to help him embalm or anything.
I never thought about dating a person in the funeral business, it never came up, but here I am. We spoke, joked around, laughed and exchanged cards at a local music venue. I wasn't looking to pick anyone up, friends I've made there, including the owner, know that. Neither did I pick him up, just seemed to get along well and feel comfortable talking together. We are the same age (58). BTW I wasn't drinking, I don't when I drive and practically nothing, (1 glass wine), if I'm not the driver.
I'm a divorcee-to-be and I have been getting out but I'm not seeking sex, commitment, or a relationship. My divorce is taking a long time, (already 9 months), and I've been encouraged by friends and professionals, (therapist, etc.), to get out and enjoy life in the interim, expand my network...etc.
Back to the card... I didn't look at it or think twice, I just put his card behind my own in my cardholder that evening. The next day changing purses, I pulled out the card and he's a funeral director. I would have put an exclamation point after the last sentence, (look, I was shocked, it's true, what can I say?), but then I started thinking about it. It's a business, right? I just got temporarily freaked out because of my own feelings about death---true or false?
He has been actively pursing me, and we have had 3 dinner dates since we met a month ago. They were enjoyable. 7/8 on a 1 to 10 scale. He is a wonderful escort with exquisite manners and a great sense of humor. He usually calls daily and when he travels we call or txt daily. He seems extremely busy and that's OK by me. He wants me to meet his family. He seems very infatuated with me. He knows a lot of people and seems known, well-liked, and respected. I am sexually attracted to him but I'm not acting on it. I know he is attracted and I can see him going crazy, (sorry), but I DID make it verbally clear at the outset I wasn't looking to hook up for sex right now...(And buying me dinner doesn't mean I have sex to "thank you").
I have "vetted" him and his background is clean. (Once between marriages I met this "nice guy" and he turned out to have a prison record. No thank you...).
He was married for 17 years, 2 grown children, then widowed. 1 year after he was widowed he married another woman and it lasted 2 years. What I've learned from him squares up with I now know. He has told me the 2nd marriage just "wasn't meant to be". I guess things happen...I'm not one to judge.
I have been married 2x, 10 and 20 years. The most recent destroyed my self-esteem and has messed with my head. I've been working very hard with 2 therapists and I feel much better. (I don't discuss my "woes" in detail excepting my doctors and lawyer and this forum).
I would say, even considering the good times of both of my marriages, he treats me like a goddess. It is very nice and I don't discourage it. My own doctors tell me I'm "entitled" to be well-treated. I then began thinking he must be sort of a pariah when a woman finds out his profession unless she does the same thing. I guess that's where my attitude of "it's just business" came in handy. I didn't run away. I didn't make excuses. I knew he would be a flawed human being like me. I wasn't concerned with his profession or money when I met him because during those moments I knew nothing about him, just that we seemed at ease.
I've subsequently learned he is a wealthy, successful businessman, with a sterling reputation amongst his peers. I don't know what to think now. I'm not seeking money I have enough on my plate. For all I know he may be a womanizer, I don't really KNOW him. My own inclination is just to go slow. Set the pace. If he doesn't like slow, then it's not meant to be. What are your thoughts on that?
Has anyone every dated a person in the funeral business? Is anyone involved in this business that could tell me if you go through more challenges than the next person because of your profession? What does anybody/everybody else think? Is anyone now in a relationship with a funeral director? Thanks in advance for your replies even if you say you'd be "creeped out". Just be honest please.
So you have rated the dates on a 1 - 10 scale, you have "vetted" him yet you are not one to judge and your biggest issue is that he is a funeral director? Alrighty then, I don't get it but it is not my place to get it.
I think it would freak me out a little bit when I first found out his profession, but if I met a man that is as kind as this man seems I would not let him slip through my fingers. I think you are handling things well in how your are proceeding. He is being patient and kind and respectful of you. Keep doing what you are doing and slowly let the relationship evolve.
I never thought about dating a person in the funeral business, it never came up, but here I am. We spoke, joked around, laughed and exchanged cards at a local music venue. I wasn't looking to pick anyone up, friends I've made there, including the owner, know that. Neither did I pick him up, just seemed to get along well and feel comfortable talking together. We are the same age (58). BTW I wasn't drinking, I don't when I drive and practically nothing, (1 glass wine), if I'm not the driver.
I'm a divorcee-to-be and I have been getting out but I'm not seeking sex, commitment, or a relationship. My divorce is taking a long time, (already 9 months), and I've been encouraged by friends and professionals, (therapist, etc.), to get out and enjoy life in the interim, expand my network...etc.
Back to the card... I didn't look at it or think twice, I just put his card behind my own in my cardholder that evening. The next day changing purses, I pulled out the card and he's a funeral director. I would have put an exclamation point after the last sentence, (look, I was shocked, it's true, what can I say?), but then I started thinking about it. It's a business, right? I just got temporarily freaked out because of my own feelings about death---true or false?
He has been actively pursing me, and we have had 3 dinner dates since we met a month ago. They were enjoyable. 7/8 on a 1 to 10 scale. He is a wonderful escort with exquisite manners and a great sense of humor. He usually calls daily and when he travels we call or txt daily. He seems extremely busy and that's OK by me. He wants me to meet his family. He seems very infatuated with me. He knows a lot of people and seems known, well-liked, and respected. I am sexually attracted to him but I'm not acting on it. I know he is attracted and I can see him going crazy, (sorry), but I DID make it verbally clear at the outset I wasn't looking to hook up for sex right now...(And buying me dinner doesn't mean I have sex to "thank you").
I have "vetted" him and his background is clean. (Once between marriages I met this "nice guy" and he turned out to have a prison record. No thank you...).
He was married for 17 years, 2 grown children, then widowed. 1 year after he was widowed he married another woman and it lasted 2 years. What I've learned from him squares up with I now know. He has told me the 2nd marriage just "wasn't meant to be". I guess things happen...I'm not one to judge.
I have been married 2x, 10 and 20 years. The most recent destroyed my self-esteem and has messed with my head. I've been working very hard with 2 therapists and I feel much better. (I don't discuss my "woes" in detail excepting my doctors and lawyer and this forum).
I would say, even considering the good times of both of my marriages, he treats me like a goddess. It is very nice and I don't discourage it. My own doctors tell me I'm "entitled" to be well-treated. I then began thinking he must be sort of a pariah when a woman finds out his profession unless she does the same thing. I guess that's where my attitude of "it's just business" came in handy. I didn't run away. I didn't make excuses. I knew he would be a flawed human being like me. I wasn't concerned with his profession or money when I met him because during those moments I knew nothing about him, just that we seemed at ease.
I've subsequently learned he is a wealthy, successful businessman, with a sterling reputation amongst his peers. I don't know what to think now. I'm not seeking money I have enough on my plate. For all I know he may be a womanizer, I don't really KNOW him. My own inclination is just to go slow. Set the pace. If he doesn't like slow, then it's not meant to be. What are your thoughts on that?
Has anyone every dated a person in the funeral business? Is anyone involved in this business that could tell me if you go through more challenges than the next person because of your profession? What does anybody/everybody else think? Is anyone now in a relationship with a funeral director? Thanks in advance for your replies even if you say you'd be "creeped out". Just be honest please.
if your carreer revolves around funerals where "celebrating" ones life and rememberances, you would think this guy has a great view of life, and enjoying it-not sweating the little things
i despise going to wakes and funerals, but every time i do, im reminded just how mortal we all are- and the one true gift, isnt things, it's time, and how you make a difference to others..
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), what's not to like?
