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Lol you're so sure of that. Good probability but not guaranteed.
It has been today for a few hours in Australia so I think the sun will actually rise here as well unless of course the entire planet self destructs in the next 3.5 hours give or take a few minutes either way.....
And so long as this holds true, i dont believe anyone can or should trust anyone 100%. I mean even when you feel you can, you really shouldnt. its not right. it imposes a certain expectation unto another human being that he/she can never possibly meet.
we're always changing, growing,experiencing. its not like we wake up one day and figured it all out. I think this makes this whole concept of marriage unrealistic.
I was talking to a friend about a week ago...44..got married at 39 with a girl he dated for almost 5 years..he told her he wasnt interested in having kids before they even got married. She agreed. now she flips the script and has the nerve to call him selfish? in some sense, i can understand the human component to this. Clearly she changed her mind. But thats exactly my point. we're all subjected to this risk should we assume to take it. it doesnt make sense to me that any of us should position ourselves to disapointment so long at there is that risk. not legally on paper. not when it can impact your life, your finances, everything. why complicate ourselves? guys fn flakes too. ive heard all the stories. smh...
The biggest imperfection I see with humans is this notion that what applies to me, applies to every single person in the world. I don't think marriage is for me either but I'm not going to knock the entire institution because of it. There are definitely people in the world who can a make marriage work.
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Never believe someone when they say they definitely don't want kids ever. It's instinctual for most of us, like the desire that drives us towards the opposite sex. I don't know this from experience but from intuition.
She didn't change her mind, she thought she would change his! I don't have kids, I like them but, I never wanted my own. To me this is a dealbreaker, if he's really against it. Children are too important to be used as bargining chips!
Men often don't want children when they are younger, but then find that as their hormonal systems mature they develop a strong 'biological clock' drive to have kids of their own. Sometimes this happens to women, too.
It's not predictable who it will happen to and when. Your friend is not very intelligent.
And so long as this holds true, i dont believe anyone can or should trust anyone 100%. I mean even when you feel you can, you really shouldnt. its not right. it imposes a certain expectation unto another human being that he/she can never possibly meet.
we're always changing, growing,experiencing. its not like we wake up one day and figured it all out. I think this makes this whole concept of marriage unrealistic.
I was talking to a friend about a week ago...44..got married at 39 with a girl he dated for almost 5 years..he told her he wasnt interested in having kids before they even got married. She agreed. now she flips the script and has the nerve to call him selfish? in some sense, i can understand the human component to this. Clearly she changed her mind. But thats exactly my point. we're all subjected to this risk should we assume to take it. it doesnt make sense to me that any of us should position ourselves to disapointment so long at there is that risk. not legally on paper. not when it can impact your life, your finances, everything. why complicate ourselves? guys fn flakes too. ive heard all the stories. smh...
i waited until i was ready for marriage with a person who had life experience enough to understand who she was. worked out great. you cant just fall into it and cross you fingers.
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So, what I'm getting from this thread is that I shouldn't trust the sun.
them solar flares are just waiting for you to turn your back
Yes, people aren't perfect, and neither am I. But I know I am good.... well, pretty good.
I would hate to think that my SO should not trust me just because I am imperfect and have the potential to disappoint them. Life has enough challenges without adding "what if"s to the equation.
People have the right to change their mind. No one can interfere with that, for good reason.
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