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View Poll Results: would you?
yes 12 32.43%
no 25 67.57%
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Old 04-24-2012, 03:56 PM
 
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I'm curious to see the results contrasted with the ED question.

(before the jokes fly in, I'm not getting laid enough to contract any STD's. Fortunately/unfortunately, this thread is not applicable to alabama tom).
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Old 04-24-2012, 04:51 PM
 
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Incurable...do you mean HIV? Then yes, I would, without fear. The stigma HIV+ people face is ridiculous and there is no need for it in 2012. You can protect against infection with condoms, and if the person is taking ARVs there is virtually zero chance of transmission. If you are negative and in a committed relationship with a positive person, you can even take low doses of ARV to further protect yourself.

People with HIV have every right to experience sex, love and commitment and even have children. Let's fight the ignorance.
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Old 04-24-2012, 05:30 PM
 
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"Topics guys should never ask about on CD for $2000 Alex."
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Old 04-24-2012, 05:51 PM
 
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Incurable...do you mean HIV? Then yes, I would, without fear. The stigma HIV+ people face is ridiculous and there is no need for it in 2012. You can protect against infection with condoms, and if the person is taking ARVs there is virtually zero chance of transmission. If you are negative and in a committed relationship with a positive person, you can even take low doses of ARV to further protect yourself.

People with HIV have every right to experience sex, love and commitment and even have children. Let's fight the ignorance.
O.M.G. - PC taken to new heights - let's get real. And people want to use "raincoats" for their sex life, which aren't foolproof, or take some anti-viral they have no need for, which I'm sure costs a fortune? Some of the thread topics on here are nothing less than daunting.
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Old 04-24-2012, 05:52 PM
 
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"Topics guys should never ask about on CD for $2000 Alex."
As far as I'm concerned, you have won Jeopardy!
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Old 04-24-2012, 06:33 PM
 
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Yes,I would. Herpes,hiv,hepatitis c won't stand in the way of me finding my true love.
Besides,we all have some baggage. Theirs just happens to be a disease.

I would like it though if men would tell me up front,so I know what I'm dealing with.
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Old 04-24-2012, 07:14 PM
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If you are talking about herpes, then honestly I would not be interested in marrying a man with herpes when I don't have it. The same goes for hepatitis C or HIV/AIDS.

I consider marriage to be a commitment for the rest of my life, many decades of being true to one man. Yes, if I were dating someone I would use condoms and practice safe sex. However, once the relationship has turned into a long term monogamous situation and then marriage, then condoms are not for me in the bedroom. And I have no desire to take low doses of ARV or have to be careful of intimacies with my partner for the rest of our lives.

I would rather be by myself than to be married to a man with these sorts of medical issues. It's my life and that's the way it is. And everyone is entitled to make up their own minds about this issue and without any harsh judgements from others.

Sure those with incurable STD's deserve love in their lives. But they can find love with others that have the same disease as themselves. I'm sure that many of them who are in support groups end up finding someone to date and marry with their same medical issue. Problem solved.
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Old 04-24-2012, 07:17 PM
 
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If I didn't know a guy and found out before we got close, I would pass. If my dh happened to pick up HIV in the lab I would obviously deal with it. We had a scare last year and it aged me a few years.
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Old 04-24-2012, 07:19 PM
 
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Besides,we all have some baggage. Theirs just happens to be a disease.
Sure, it's just an incurable disease that can be passed on to your partner. No big deal. Please! I don't understand why someone would willingly get involved with someone they hardly know and has an incurable STD. The "we all have baggage or flaws" claim is bogus. Someone else's disease shouldn't be my problem.
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Old 04-24-2012, 07:21 PM
 
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Then there's the idea of children. The couple wouldn't be able to have their own children, but they might be able to adopt. Although, there would probably be limitations there as well.
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