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Not willing to settle? Not willing to compromise? It seems that even transplants from small towns have this sense that they were the best out of those they left behind so only deserve the best. I'm not saying we don't deserve our ideal, but sometimes I feel like we're so stringent and not true to what we like because of these imposed artificial ideals we set for ourselves.
Well, maybe we don't deserve our ideals. I see what you are saying. There are a lot of us who need a reality check so to speak.
And maybe certain people are okay with that. I have no doubt that there are plenty of people out there that will be perfectly happy single if they can't find what they're looking for.
And maybe certain people are okay with that. I have no doubt that there are plenty of people out there that will be perfectly happy single if they can't find what they're looking for.
Not willing to settle? Not willing to compromise? It seems that even transplants from small towns have this sense that they were the best out of those they left behind so only deserve the best. I'm not saying we don't deserve our ideal, but sometimes I feel like we're so stringent and not true to what we like because of these imposed artificial ideals we set for ourselves.
Really, how do we know they don't deserve the best or that they aren't the best out of those they left behind? But I get what you're saying. Some people are unrealistic. I'm thankful to them. More to go around while they live in blissful ignorance as to why they are alone.
People are way too picky. Seriously. Nitpicking over things that don't really matter in the grand scheme of things. I think it's because people are just so comfortable in this day and age. Consider that the beautiful Angelina Jolie just had a double mastectomy recently. How's that for guys who insist on big boobs?
It makes sense for some people to be picky. If your date is already unattractive and unintelligent, it's not like you can compromise on personality. If your date is attractive and has a great personality you could say "Our conversations are a bit stale, but she is the nicest person I've ever met and she has a sexy body... can't have it all!"
In general I think some people are WAY too picky at times and do defend it by arguing they are not going to settle. However, from my viewpoint as someone who is married, I find that those people often have rather unimportant items on their checklist too (and ironically often ignore things which are far more important in a long term relationship).
Yet, it is up to each person to know themselves, and what they can and cannot live with in a mate.
Nobody should ever feel like they are settling. That said, nobody should feel like making a compromise is settling either. The difference, settling is giving up on something reluctantly or regretfully. Compromising is sort of like trading one desire to get something else, and doing so happily without regrets.
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