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You should look for a asexual guy. There are internet communities for asexual people.
That's dumb and off the wall...If the woman is beautiful and wonderful to be around..that should be enough...If the guy really loves her- marry her....and then have sex...
Speaking as a man who considers lovemaking an integral part of a relationship with a woman, I respect his decision to walk away. There is nothing greater than witnessing a beautiful woman in all her naked glory, quivering with pleasure because of the sex she's having with the man she feels close to. Typically, it is an experience that a couple wants to share, repeatedly, as one of the defining aspects of their relationship. It's the ultimate act of intimacy.
You're entitled to live the way you choose, but I don't blame him for walking away. There are far too many women who don't feel this way, and it's his prerogative to find one who he's more compatible with.
There is nothing wrong with who you choose to be. You just need to find someone better suited for you.
i just wanted to let him know why no sex and at first he understood and he said it is okay. I just told him I did not feel comfortable at this point and to be honest I did not know when i would be okay with it so i didnt give him a specific answers like 'okay after three months', nobody knows how you will be the next day the next week or next year. Also I didn't trust him fully and i believe it takes time to build trust with someone, he caused somethings that made me doubt him, also especially with someone that you like a lot i tend to be more careful because the more i like the person the more hurt i will be in the end. I wanted to take my time and make the right choice not rush into things
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"(Penny Lane) changed everything. She was the one that said 'No more sex. No more exploiting our bodies and hearts. Just bl*w-j*bs, and that's it!'" - Almost Famous
Guys need sex. There's no way I'd get involved in a relationship with a woman who says that it may not happen. You should think about your stance toward sex because I fear that you will have a difficult time finding a partner. I'm not saying you need to jump in the sack with a guy by the third date or even the fifteenth but at some point most normal relationships involve sexual intimacy. Sorry, but that's reality.
Um, you just said it, by stating her "value in the dating market" would decrease.
When I said I agree I was talking about my personal opinion. I don't believe non-virgin girls are unpure. The only reason I want to wait is because I like the idea of being each other first, and I believe it makes a stronger relationship.
But many other people in her culture do think non-virgins are unpure. Hence losing her virginity will negatively impact her dating possibilities.
i just wanted to let him know why no sex and at first he understood and he said it is okay. I just told him I did not feel comfortable at this point and to be honest I did not know when i would be okay with it so i didnt give him a specific answers like 'okay after three months', nobody knows how you will be the next day the next week or next year. Also I didn't trust him fully and i believe it takes time to build trust with someone, he caused somethings that made me doubt him, also especially with someone that you like a lot i tend to be more careful because the more i like the person the more hurt i will be in the end. I wanted to take my time and make the right choice not rush into things
I think this is perfectly reasonable, and that the people who say you are wrong misunderstood you.
But I agree with those who say you need to work on HOW you say it. Be sure you are telling him exactly what you mean, and not giving him the wrong idea.
Just say like you did here, that for you sex requires deep trust, because you get very emotionally attached, and that trust takes some time to develop. And that you do want to have sex with him, you just need the other stuff to come first.
A good guy will be happy to hear this, because it tells him that you want to build deep trust and deep connection with him, that he is special to you.
But if you just say 'No sex, and I don't know when, maybe never,' that will make him think things that are not true. It will make him think you don't want to move in the direction of having sex with him, or finding out if you want to.
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I respect his decision
