Is he cheating (girl, husbands, family, call)

[NilaJones]

I read the whole thing. I have no idea if he is cheating. But why don't you two just get on a train and go see some other part of India?

Is this really how you're supposed to vacation in India??

Just go up into "the hills," wander around and ask strange 18-year-old girls, who are known worldwide as experts in international lodging , if they know about any ROOMS??

Actually, yeah, I think that's the norm. Not that many places have hotels or rooms you can book ahead of time.

[Prescious]

Originally Posted by Wmsn4Life

Is this really how you're supposed to vacation in India??

Just go up into "the hills," wander around and ask strange 18-year-old girls, who are known worldwide as experts in international lodging , if they know about any ROOMS?? Well I was with him, we were both looking for a room in the hills at that time

You say he's FROM INDIA, yet he made no arrangements in advance for you to have a place to stay??

I did read the whole thing, unfortunately. Your story is just too weird to be believable.
One thing I will say ... at least you didn't begin your post with, "OK, so ...."

Hi, thanks for your reply but what do you mean by experts in international lodging??. What is that?


Also my husbands behavior seems to be distant. He hasn't bathed in 3 days since he was supposed to go to that birthday party of that 18 year old girls brother and I stopped him. Now tonight he says he wants to die. I'm like why? He doesn't answer. What's wrong with my husband? He tells me he loves me, He hugs me and plays our special love song "Baby I love you and I'll never let you go" everyday to me. Yet he seems distant with me from that night. Everytime I ask him are you thinking about those people in the hills he keeps saying no. Then he asks me, how long will I do this. Not trusting him for the whole life of our relation? So but why is he saying tonight in bed that he wants to die then he keeps staring into space thinking about something.

[lilyflower3191981]

Originally Posted by Prescious

Hi, thanks for your reply but what do you mean by experts in international lodging??. What is that?


Also my husbands behavior seems to be distant. He hasn't bathed in 3 days since he was supposed to go to that birthday party of that 18 year old girls brother and I stopped him. Now tonight he says he wants to die. I'm like why? He doesn't answer. What's wrong with my husband? He tells me he loves me, He hugs me and plays our special love song "Baby I love you and I'll never let you go" everyday to me. Yet he seems distant with me from that night. Everytime I ask him are you thinking about those people in the hills he keeps saying no. Then he asks me, how long will I do this. Not trusting him for the whole life of our relation? So but why is he saying tonight in bed that he wants to die then he keeps staring into space thinking about something.

Bold = deal breaker.

Story is so unbelievable but okay.

[mainebrokerman]

he's either doing drugs...or trying to do the girl

brace yourself, you are in a ride to purgatory

stand up for yourself- otherwise you'll be treated like a dog

there's so many red flags in your post,,,you need to communicate,,, and set him straight,,,

[Klassyhk]

Originally Posted by Prescious

Hi, thanks for your reply but what do you mean by experts in international lodging??. What is that?


Also my husbands behavior seems to be distant. He hasn't bathed in 3 days since he was supposed to go to that birthday party of that 18 year old girls brother and I stopped him. Now tonight he says he wants to die. I'm like why? He doesn't answer. What's wrong with my husband? He tells me he loves me, He hugs me and plays our special love song "Baby I love you and I'll never let you go" everyday to me. Yet he seems distant with me from that night. Everytime I ask him are you thinking about those people in the hills he keeps saying no. Then he asks me, how long will I do this. Not trusting him for the whole life of our relation? So but why is he saying tonight in bed that he wants to die then he keeps staring into space thinking about something.

Prescious,

Your story sounds weird to most people but not too me because due to the nature of my profession I'm often around people who unknowingly get mixed up in strange, crazy, or inexplicable schemes. India, like so many non-Western countries is extremely superstitious. I would not be surprised if those people gave him so mind-altering substance/drink/smoke or had him participate in one of their rituals to some of the gods supposedly to bring good luck or success. In actuality, it is designed to destroy him. You should accompany your husband to a Indian Christian Pastor, before you leave India if possible. You and your husband should explain to him/her what happened. He/She will ask more questions to get more clarity on the situation but I'm confident they can help you.

[Snowball7]

Precious, I really do not think your husband is cheating on you.
He wanted to and tried to have you accompany him to the hill family,
after he had already been there... he would not have done that if he
was cheating. No, he's just been having an adventure and is also chilling
with his roots, his people and culture that you are not a part of, although
he did invite you, he does love you but also wants you to be part of his
adventure, which includes getting stoned and deep thoughts without tension.
The best thing you can do is relax, be soft and go with him wherever he
wants to go, take a puff of whatever they are doing, if you won't do any
drugs then just go wherever he wants and don't give him a hard time over it.
That is what will serve you both best in your new marriage. You have to
loosen up. Take a deep breath and start right away. Only time will tell
if your marriage was wise. More time than two months. So be warm with him,
not argumentative. And ask him to take a bath/shower. :-)

[Prescious]

Originally Posted by Klassyhk

Prescious,

Your story sounds weird to most people but not too me because due to the nature of my profession I'm often around people who unknowingly get mixed up in strange, crazy, or inexplicable schemes. India, like so many non-Western countries is extremely superstitious. I would not be surprised if those people gave him so mind-altering substance/drink/smoke or had him participate in one of their rituals to some of the gods supposedly to bring good luck or success. In actuality, it is designed to destroy him. You should accompany your husband to a Indian Christian Pastor, before you leave India if possible. You and your husband should explain to him/her what happened. He/She will ask more questions to get more clarity on the situation but I'm confident they can help you.

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Thanks for your reply but do you have any idea what international lodging means? That 18 year old girl is an expert in international lodging. What is that? Anybody?

What do you mean by strange inexplicable schemes? You mean on my husbands part? Like what kind of scheme? We've known each other for 3years since 2010 prior to getting married.

Also you think that night he went into the hills, they did something to him spiritually? I was thinking he had sex with her because he came back acting different. But the day after that night I think this 18year old girl and her mother went out of town to a big Hindu convention for 2 days. Why? What did they do there? My husband converted to Christian btw, we married in an Indian Church. His family hates me now and he is rejected by his family for converting to Christianity and marrying me. So please help me out with some answers. Thanks

[Plzeň]

Originally Posted by CSD610

Talk to your husband he is the ONLY ONE who can tell answer ALL of your questions.

I will say I did not read the entire novella you wrote because it is just way too much for one post.

Well said on both counts! I was about to say both of these things, actually. A) We can't possibly know. B) Few people are going to read all of that, anyway.

[Prescious]

Sorry for the original long post guys. I figured most people like to read about other relationships because it may help theres. Below is a shorter version of my post

Thanks for your reply but do you have any idea what international lodging means? That 18 year old girl is an expert in international lodging. What is that? Anybody?

What do you mean by strange inexplicable schemes? You mean on my husbands part? Like what kind of scheme? We've known each other for 3years since 2010 prior to getting married.

Also you think that night he went into the hills, they did something to him spiritually? I was thinking he had sex with her because he came back acting different. But the day after that night I think this 18year old girl and her mother went out of town to a big Hindu convention for 2 days. Why? What did they do there? My husband converted to Christian btw, we married in an Indian Church. His family hates me now and he is rejected by his family for converting to Christianity and marrying me. So please help me out with some answers. Thanks

[Plzeň]

Originally Posted by Prescious

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do you have any idea what international lodging means?

Probably exactly what it sounds like. International = across different nations, and lodging = places where people stay, e.g. hotels or hostels or whatever. If your question goes beyond that, I'm not sure what you're asking.