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Went on a date Thursday night for drinks with someone online. Prior to our date we exchanged a few emails and were on the phone for a couple of hours laughing. He was telling me how he is dating to find "the one". I said I was too. He seemed like a nice, genuine, outgoing guy. Lookswise, NOT someone hot (his personality is what drew me to him) and he was far from rich (don't want to get accused of being super shallow and materialistic here).
Anyway, date was going well so we had dinner. Date was still going well so we went somewhere for dessert.
He kissed me a few times throughout the date and he was NOT the one to pull away (I did just because I needed some air!).
Sent him a text today saying how I had a great time. He texted me back that he had a good time but didn't feel the chemistry. I asked him if I said or did anything wrong (I mean, he kept kissing me!), and he said he didn't feel the attraction.
I'm just at a lost of words for this. Did he only keep kissing me to TRY to see if there was attraction? I just DID NOT see this coming.
I know it is just one date but it was the best date I had in maybe years. Yeah I know I will get over it and all that, but I just felt like he really liked me.
Normally I'm cool with rejection and I usually can tell write away if there is chemistry but I cannot help but feel really hurt over this. Yeah again just one date but I felt the chemistry. Until I sent him a text, I could have SWORN that he really was interested in me!
Did he only keep kissing me to TRY to see if there was attraction?
Maybe. Or maybe he has some completely different reason for not continuing with you, and the 'attraction' thing is just an excuse that he figures you cannot argue with. Maybe he got back together with his wife or got offered a job in Tasmania or his dad broke his hip and is moving in with him.
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I know it is just one date but it was the best date I had in maybe years. Yeah I know I will get over it and all that, but I just felt like he really liked me.
It's possible that a guy you cannot read like that (or one who is that deceptive) is not a good match anyway, no matter how he seemed at the time. This is what I would tell myself, in your shoes, anyway .
If you really want to know you could email him and ask. As long as you make it abundantly clear that you are seeking info and NOT trying to continue things, if he's a decent person he will explain. And if he's not, then that is also useful to know.
I guess I was on here more to vent. No sense in trying to get some other reason from him because he doesn't want to see me again regardless you know?
I mean if there were cameras in the room showing you guys our date, you would think it was mutual chemistry.
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Originally Posted by NilaJones
Maybe. Or maybe he has some completely different reason for not continuing with you, and the 'attraction' thing is just an excuse that he figures you cannot argue with. Maybe he got back together with his wife or got offered a job in Tasmania or his dad broke his hip and is moving in with him.
It's possible that a guy you cannot read like that (or one who is that deceptive) is not a good match anyway, no matter how he seemed at the time. This is what I would tell myself, in your shoes, anyway .
If you really want to know you could email him and ask. As long as you make it abundantly clear that you are seeking info and NOT trying to continue things, if he's a decent person he will explain. And if he's not, then that is also useful to know.
I am very sorry to hear how things turned out for you OP, especially when you had mentioned how optimistic and promising everything was looking during the actual date with him
I think that the third post gave some excellent advice: perhaps that it isn't you personally he doesn't like or isn't interested in but more something outside of his control?
In any case, after taking a quick look at your profile, you are definitely an extremely pretty and very attractive girl, and so I am sure you will have no problem at all with finding someone very special soon in the future who you like *and* who also truly likes you back too!
Wait, does this guy have tons of girls? If so, then forget it. He's moved on.
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