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Man Bollywood will not help you. I can’t write what I think because will be banned. Go do something for real. It is funny how women are naive and fall for such stories.
So, after everything I've been through, and as much as I loved him... Is this guy just playing with me, manipulating me, lying, and using me as a little white plaything, both sexually (in the past) and now emotionally to make himself feel good until he goes for an arranged marriage? Were the tears lies/manipulation, as well as the "you're the love of my life" line? He was fooling me with all of it?
Only you know that.
Tell yourself, what you would tell a friend. Its your life. People treat you only how you let them. If you think that this is fine... then.. I don't see the point of this discussion at all.
So, after everything I've been through, and as much as I loved him... Is this guy just playing with me, manipulating me, lying, and using me as a little white plaything, both sexually (in the past) and now emotionally to make himself feel good until he goes for an arranged marriage? Were the tears lies/manipulation, as well as the "you're the love of my life" line? He was fooling me with all of it?
Yes. This is exactly what it sounds like is going on, assuming you're not just trolling us. I have members of my own extended family who have done this same despicable thing. Being that the typical indian kid grows up with very little education from parents about emotions, empathy, and above all, relationships, the sociopathic tends to manifest itself exactly like this. There is this overwhelming guilt put on by parents who use their kids as their own vicarious embodiment. Personally, I could have been this guy, but my parents are very level headed and have lived in this country for 39/33 years, respectively.
I have members of my own extended family who have done this same despicable thing. Being that the typical indian kid grows up with very little education from parents about emotions, empathy, and above all, relationships, the sociopathic tends to manifest itself exactly like this.
I was really hoping that he'd start to be honest one day. It's hard for me to make sense of someone who calls me the love of his life and asks me for a long distance relationship, then suddenly announces he can't be with me because of overwhelming pressure at work... and then a follow-up text saying, "actually it's just that my parents won't approve." But even after that, he mailed me an elaborate birthday gift, gives me a sweet embrace every time he sees me & talks about what we'll do next time I'm back in town. Just the constant back and forth. If he loved me then why doesn't he grow a pair like his older brother and stand up against an arrangement he doesn't want???
Then why did he ever get so deep in with me that he got back together with me a second time & called me the love of his life & said he'd tell his parents? Why???
Then why did he ever get so deep in with me that he got back together with me a second time & called me the love of his life & said he'd tell his parents? Why???
Do you realize you've asked the same basic question rephrased about 20 times now?? Seriously... get a life, I, like others were being sincere in trying to help you. Now you're just coming off as an OCD case.
People are pretty much tuning you out after a while.
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