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If you find yourself having to figure it out, the chances are, she's not interested. Women want what they want, and like men, will go out of their way to get it.
If a woman likes you it has zero to do with body language and everything to do with eye contact.
It's in the eyes guys...no eye contact, no interest. If she looks at you, holds it for a beat, then looks away, you've got a chance.
And the reverse applies too, for any confused ladies out there.
Well, I'd have to be watching her for somewhat more than a "heartbeat" to see all that. Bottom line is if she likes me she wouldn't consider it staring, but if she doesn't she would. I don't think I need to feel guilty about the way I check out women, because much of whether she considers me to be "staring at her" depends only on what she thinks of my attractiveness. (So long as I'm not blatantly staring for quite a bit more than "a heartbeat").
Last edited by Davros; 05-19-2013 at 09:30 PM..
Reason: for clarity
The problem about staring is it shows a lack of basic manners.
It's offensive to both the person being stared at, and the loved one looking on.
If you're in a relationship with a person who does this, you're in a relationship with a rude individual who doesn't care about other people's feelings.
It's a bit of a bigger problem than just someone who can't keep their eyes to themselves. It's a respect issue.
If women/men feel disrespected by people "not keeping their eyes to themselves," then why do both men and women in modern Western culture try to look attractive to the opposite sex ? You'd think if people didn't want to be looked at, we'd all drape ourselves completely in cloth.
Well, I'd have to be watching her for somewhat more than a "heartbeat" to see all that. Bottom line is if she likes me she wouldn't consider it staring, but if she doesn't she would. I don't think I need to feel guilty about the way I check out women, because much of whether she considers me to be "staring at her" depends only on what she thinks of my looks. (So long as I'm not blatantly staring for quite a bit more than "a heartbeat").
Woah I wasn't trying to make you feel guilty.
That's your word.
How does it work for you? The longer the stare, the more likely she is to (fill in space)....?
How does it work for you? The longer the stare, the more likely she is to (fill in space)....?
Call the cops.
No, just kidding. Look, staring doesn't work to attract women. I know that. That's why I don't try to stare at women. But I do try to get eye contact with them to try and guess whether they like me or not. But I'm too shy to take it to the next step.
Overall, I've given up on dating because I recognize that I'm too shy. But I don't think it's fair that I'd have to completely stop checking out women either. As others have said on this thread, even married people check people out for fun.
When I'm out men always stare at me when they're with their girlfriends/wives and they will turn their necks just to stare. I think it's offensive to their girlfriend/wife. I've never had a boyfriend before and I wouldn't like that if I was in a relationship. So do you guys get mad if your man did that.
If women/men feel disrespected by people "not keeping their eyes to themselves," then why do both men and women in modern Western culture try to look attractive to the opposite sex ? You'd think if people didn't want to be looked at, we'd all drape ourselves completely in cloth.
I would say there is a difference between seeing someone and thinking they look good, and staring, as staring could mean something beyond appreciation of their good lucks, particularly with guys.
It's impolite to stare, as it could make the subject uncomfortable. I will certainly look, and odds are good that it was my wife who pointed you out for my viewing pleasure. She's neither jealous nor insecure, and I would never give her any real reason to be.
My husband doesn't ogle-stare, but I know he glances once in a while. No, it does not bother me in the least. To me it isn't weird to appreciate beauty.
I'm guilty of a glance at a particularly cute guy here and there. It doesn't mean I want anything. I'm pretty sure that's how my husband is viewing it as well when he glances.
I think we need to define the word stare. How long of a look constitutes a stare? look at the wall and count off seconds, as in one one thousand, two one thousand. I will say it is over 5 seconds, and that anything less than that is a "look" or a "glance" that should be discounted. Staring at another woman is wrong, but looking (3-5 seconds) or glancing (under 3 seconds) is fine.
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