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Old 05-20-2013, 08:59 AM
 
Location: Miami, FL
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I am a man in his early thirties looking for a meaningful romantic relationship with a woman.

However instead of romance and emotional connection I get (just) sex.

Does this happen to any of you?

I want a relationship and it is the woman who disappears?

This happened to me twice this month. Each time I have attempted to initiate some type of romantic relationship after a physical encounter and either the woman simply disappeared or replied she wasn't interested.

And please this has nothing to do with sexual performance, since I am definitely above average in that field.
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Old 05-20-2013, 09:02 AM
 
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It happens, plenty of women looking for a mere hookup.
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Old 05-20-2013, 09:07 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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Perhaps you should actually get to know the woman before you sleep with her. That might weed out the ones who aren't looking for anything serious. If you don't want to be a one-night stand, don't act like a one-night stand.
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Old 05-20-2013, 09:12 AM
 
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At least you are getting something!
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Old 05-20-2013, 09:14 AM
 
Location: NY
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My first piece of advice would be to stay away from strippers.

Beyond that, try not to focus or make your early dates about the physical relationship. People who are looking for just sex or a physical relationship won't have the patience to go a couple dates to really get to know you.

Also, don't be afraid to communicate your intentions. Just don't try and develop a deeper romance, let the woman know the reason you are dating. ie, that your looking for a deeper romantic relationship and not just a physical one.
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Old 05-20-2013, 09:19 AM
 
Location: Reno, NV
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Perhaps you're attracting or attracted to the wrong kind of women. Perhaps they are the right kind, but don't see you as relationship material. Only you or someone who knows you well could honestly tell you which it is and why, or if it's something else entirely.
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Old 05-20-2013, 09:23 AM
 
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Perhaps you should actually get to know the woman before you sleep with her. That might weed out the ones who aren't looking for anything serious. If you don't want to be a one-night stand, don't act like a one-night stand.
Agree.
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Old 05-20-2013, 09:25 AM
 
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I am a man in his early thirties looking for a meaningful romantic relationship with a woman.

However instead of romance and emotional connection I get (just) sex.

Does this happen to any of you?

I want a relationship and it is the woman who disappears?

This happened to me twice this month. Each time I have attempted to initiate some type of romantic relationship after a physical encounter and either the woman simply disappeared or replied she wasn't interested.

And please this has nothing to do with sexual performance, since I am definitely above average in that field.
Honest question, how do you know you are above average compared to other men?
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Old 05-20-2013, 09:25 AM
 
Location: IN A COOKIE JAR
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OP, you've already received the best advise you can get on the matter. Now you know how some (most) women feel. But it is the same advise whether you are a male or female. Don't let them fiddle with your privates until you know for sure that both of you are on the same page, ie: wanting a relationship. Also don't just play hard to get where your body is concerned. As others have said, communicate your eventual intentions, otherwise, once she gets the goods she'll be out the door again - her challenge attained and won. Good luck.
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Old 05-20-2013, 09:29 AM
 
Location: Copenhagen, Denmark
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Perhaps you should actually get to know the woman before you sleep with her. That might weed out the ones who aren't looking for anything serious. If you don't want to be a one-night stand, don't act like a one-night stand.
That's a great point with which I have no disagreement.

However, i didn't always follow it. My wife and I met one night for the first time about 16 years ago at a club after promising ourselves that there had to be more to life than one night romances. However, we were unable to keep our hands off one-another.
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