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Old 05-20-2013, 11:26 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Is extremely appealing to me for some strange reason. I guess I just thrive on drama. The world would be a dull place without passion! Which leads me to another topic of discussion. Have you ever intentionally rubbed your SO the wrong way just to make up later? Nothing too harsh or anything that could be considered "cruel". Just bringing up a topic you don't see eye to eye on...
No. That's not normal behavior. Mod cut: Off topic.

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Old 05-20-2013, 11:39 AM
 
Location: Texas
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No. That's not normal behavior. Snip.
Women I genuinely like/would want to spend the rest of my life with are in short supply, but rest assured, casually dating is no problem for me.

Also, I'm not saying everyday should be a struggle. That would be exhausting and worse than no drama at all. I just think that there should be some tension when it comes to relationships for comfort leads to complacency and complacency leads to taking your partner for granted.

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Old 05-20-2013, 12:25 PM
 
Location: Chicago, IL
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No, that's just dumb to fight just for the sake of fighting.

Who does that?
A significant number of couples, sadly. Or maybe not sadly, I guess, if that's what they're into. It sucks when they decide to bring children into that kind of relationship, though.
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Old 05-20-2013, 12:31 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Also, I'm not saying everyday should be a struggle. That would be exhausting and worse than no drama at all. I just think that there should be some tension when it comes to relationships for comfort leads to complacency and complacency leads to taking your partner for granted.
No, no tension necessary for a happy and loving relationship. Maintaining a rewarding relationship does take effort; being thoughtful, surprising the SO with a gift or thoughtful (or hot) note hidden around the house or in the suit pocket, making a little effort to ease a difficult day without being asked, etc. Artificially introducing "tension" isn't helpful.
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Old 05-20-2013, 12:35 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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Uh, no.

I feel terrible UNintentionally hurting someone I care about; I'd never INTENTIONALLY hurt him.

Thos sorts of dynamics have no place in my relationship. If I were bored enough/unhappy enough in my relationship that I felt the need to fabricate boatrocking dynamics for kicks, that would be a big indication that the relationship wasn't a good one. I seriously can't imagine doing this. My relationship is a peaceful refuge, not something I want screwed up by completely unnecessary drama.
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Old 05-20-2013, 12:49 PM
 
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Is extremely appealing to me for some strange reason. I guess I just thrive on drama. The world would be a dull place without passion! Which leads me to another topic of discussion. Have you ever intentionally rubbed your SO the wrong way just to make up later? Nothing too harsh or anything that could be considered "cruel". Just bringing up a topic you don't see eye to eye on...


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Not me...going on a lil over 2 years, and zero fights, zero arguments, and zero conflicts at all here so far In fact, not even one harsh or unkind word given to each other, ever...zero drama and no unhappiness, just sweet love and affection I feel absolutely no need to stir the pot, and even when we don't see eye-to-eye, we have always been able to reach positive and mutual consensus, without needing to resort to arguing.

ETA: much like TabulaRasa, I would feel very guilty, if I were to even *unintentionally* hurt her feelings...

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Old 05-20-2013, 01:18 PM
 
Location: Up in the air
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Nope. I have a pretty relaxed and drama free life and if I was going to add a partner to that, he would have to be similar.
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Old 05-20-2013, 01:46 PM
 
Location: The Valley of the Sun
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Most people who love having drama in their lives are single or have difficulty getting SO's to stick around.
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Old 05-20-2013, 03:29 PM
 
Location: NW Indiana
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No, I never have.

The tradeoff of "excitement" v. having deliberately hurt someone is not worth it to me.
This. I would never intentionally push someone's buttons to tick them off.

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Old 05-20-2013, 05:45 PM
 
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I don't like drama of any sort.

I'll pass on poking the lioness with a stick....
Hmmm . . . I thought that sounded like fun. What lioness wouldn't want to be poked with the stick?

I like the last couple of threads I've read - people writing about good love and those here who are standing up for treating each other well.
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