After Graduation (Long Post)

[BirdieBelle]

"What could have been..." is a death-spiral way of thinking.

You could ask that after every decision you make, and then end up paralyzed by regret and indecision.

In reality, you are not wondering "what could have been." You just feel regret at what wasn't.

Accept that and move on.

[zentropa]

You may also be interested to know that reunions and other alumni gathering are going the way of the dinosaur for your generation. Fewer classes are bothering to hold them. With social media people who want to stay in touch actually do, so there is no need to catch up. Probably better to give up your goal.

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth

With all due respect to your mom, OP, I think it was a mistake for her to continue watering the seeds of false hope in you. I think maybe she was just trying to cheer you up. And I think the message from C-D is that it's time for you to abandon your goal. It's over. It's time to move on in life.

I was trying not to say this, but you are so right.

[zentropa]

I am wondering if baby has a temper and mommy is always in appeasement mode.

OP, maybe you dad will give you some REAL advice without fear of your reaction.

[JerZ]

I agree. Your mother is afraid for you, OP. You are WAY too fixated on all this. She has no idea what you'll do or whether you'll go entirely crazy over this issue. She is trying to appease you to get you over this "hump."

She is concerned about you. I don't believe she really thinks there's a chance for you with this girl.

[Suncc49]

Start lifting weights and taking multivitamins.... lift heavy and hard. Improve your self confidence and appearance and the ladies will come around....

[Jay Watson]

Originally Posted by Wmsn4Life

"What could have been..." is a death-spiral way of thinking.

You could ask that after every decision you make, and then end up paralyzed by regret and indecision.

In reality, you are not wondering "what could have been." You just feel regret at what wasn't.

Accept that and move on.

The important thing to take into consideration is that this is not like "every decision you make".

Who you spend the rest of your life with is a matter of grave importance.

[Jay Watson]

Originally Posted by Suncc49

Start lifting weights and taking multivitamins.... lift heavy and hard. Improve your self confidence and appearance and the ladies will come around....

I believe in self-improvement, and will attempt to persue this path.

Yet, I am not trying to "attract ladies". I am only trying to attract this one girl that I am interested in.

Thanks for your advice!

[PJSaturn]

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