my opinion from my personal experience and knowledge
i always see guys asking :how do i know if she likes me?
See, that's where guys are screwed. If we like a girl, it's up to us to just go up, be direct, put
our emotions on the line, risk the chance of getting shot down or hurt, and ask them out. I've always said that if women were the ones taking that risk, they would never turn a guy down again. They have no clue how tough it is to get up the courage to ask them out.
(Now, I know a couple of you are thinking, "No, man, I have no problem doing that." To that I say the following: Bull****.)
So, let's think of ways to even the playing field a bit, shall we? I know that getting shot down is all part of life's learning curve, but let's at least get the ratio down a bit.
First off: Are you playing with your league? No offense, but you need to take an assessment of yourself. If she's playing in Yankee Stadium and you're a bat boy in the bus leagues, chances are you need to lower your standards a bit. Not everyone is going to date a supermodel, ok?
Second: Do you at least have some sort of positive conversation going? By positive, I mean, is she
not making the aforementioned look of someone willing to gnaw their arm off to get away from you?
*Let's take a brief detour. If she is constantly "uh-huh"ing you and not really adding anything to the conversation, the conversation is over and you are S.O.L.*
Back on point: You should be able to at least sense some sort of interest. One thing that is important is NOT to get carried away with how much you are attracted to her or anything like that. If you are interested, look for positive signs and go for it. Don't drag your feet, just suck it up and try.
*side note: Do NOT under any circumstances mention her to your friends until you've gotten the digits, or preferably until you've had a date. The reason? It'll make you look stupid if it doesn't happen, or, if she's a freak/idiot/psycho you can pretend it never happened at all. Plus, it's bad luck.
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So, what are some of the signs that she's interested? Glad you asked.
If she touches you a lot. (Noticably more than she touches anyone else) Unless of course, it's to shove you away.
Constant eye contact, lots of smiling, interested in keeping you involved in the conversation.
If she carves your name in her arm with a pocketknife. No, wait, that's bad.
Basically, it's all common sense. The difficulty is in judging whether she likes you as a friend or as in potential boyfriend material, and the easiest way to sidestep that one is to ask her out early enough in the game so that she hasn't decided yet.
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inspired by other threads i saw... Just thought I would include it in here:
You and a woman are looking at the sky. She looks up and says, "Wow, the sky is pink." You look up at the sky, and, to you, it is clearly blue.
What you guys need to understand is that even though you see the sky is blue, she sees pink. It doesn't make her wrong, it doesn't make her different... It's just how she sees things.
The problem most guys have is that they can't step outside of their own thought processes. You expect her to respond how YOU would respond, because you are only familiar with the male thought pattern.
I'm not telling you to think the way that she thinks. You don't have to look up and see pink. All you need to do is understand that to her, it's pink. You don't need her to see it the way you do, you don't need to see it the way she sees it. Just understand the difference.
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