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Old 05-23-2013, 10:35 PM
 
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My BF says that most men are just happy to be invited to the party. They don't care what the decorations look like.
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Old 05-23-2013, 10:37 PM
 
Location: New Zealand and Australia
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My BF says that most men are just happy to be invited to the party. They don't care what the decorations look like.
I agree, as long as the decorations aren't hideous
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Old 05-23-2013, 10:38 PM
 
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I agree, as long as the decorations aren't hideous
If they were that bad, you wouldn't have gone to the party in the first place, now would you.
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Old 05-23-2013, 11:02 PM
 
Location: New Zealand and Australia
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If they were that bad, you wouldn't have gone to the party in the first place, now would you.
Correct
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Old 05-23-2013, 11:04 PM
 
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Some guys won't care, some guys will.

I've had a guy get up and leave just before we were going to get 'intimate' because my surgery scars on my stomach grossed him out. Men are extremely visual and some simply won't be able to become aroused if you have big physical flaws.
He is probably hitting himself now thinking why the hell did i do that. what a prick
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Old 05-23-2013, 11:09 PM
 
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I want to become intimate with a guy I'm dating but I'm self conscious about being naked in front of him, making "sex" faces(lol) and everything else that comes along with being vulnerable. I know it sounds silly, but I have a lot of negative feelings about my body. So my question is when men see a woman naked, or have sex with her, how critical are you of her body and it's imperfections--such as stretch marks, cellulite, scars, discoloration, etc. How critical are you of her when she makes "faces" or noises during sex? And have you ever been surprised at how a woman looked with her clothes off(compared to on)--such as have you ever thought that she might look one way and she took her clothes off and her body looked bigger than what you imagined or not as toned(how did that make you feel?)

The question is Do you take care of yourself? healthy lifestyle? exercise ? And also its all about self perception. if you are confident besides having the scars and he sees that...im pretty sure he wont be running to hills.
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Old 05-23-2013, 11:24 PM
 
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If I'm with a guy who has a perfect body, or is naturally critical, I'd be super insecure (because I'm not perfect).
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Old 05-23-2013, 11:33 PM
 
Location: New Zealand and Australia
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stretch marks, cellulite, scars, discoloration.....none of those phase me, again as long as its not hideous.
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Old 05-24-2013, 12:21 AM
 
Location: Toronto
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Some guys won't care, some guys will.

I've had a guy get up and leave just before we were going to get 'intimate' because my surgery scars on my stomach grossed him out. Men are extremely visual and some simply won't be able to become aroused if you have big physical flaws.
Wow! Where the hell do you find these guys? You're dating history is nuts.

I haven't dated since I was 22 and I not shy at all. String bikini's were my favourite thing to wear. My scars were badges of honour from skateboarding on half-pipes as a teen. Now, I have to keep checking with my 8 year old and husband before I wear a two piece. 'Are you sure I look okay?' A little cellulite on my ass, stretch marks on my lower abdomen, 5 scars from laporascopic surgery to take out my gall bladder and my belly isn't flat anymore. I miss my old body.

If I can bravely go out in public in a two piece, OP can have sex in the dark. Most guys are nice and not nearly as nasty as JetJockey's experience. Or at least the guys I dated were. Just, don't date @ssholes.
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Old 05-24-2013, 12:31 AM
 
Location: Up in the air
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Wow! Where the hell do you find these guys? You're dating history is nuts.

I haven't dated since I was 22 and I not shy at all. String bikini's were my favourite thing to wear. My scars were badges of honour from skateboarding on half-pipes as a teen. Now, I have to keep checking with my 8 year old and husband before I wear a two piece. 'Are you sure I look okay?' A little cellulite on my ass, stretch marks on my lower abdomen, 5 scars from laporascopic surgery to take out my gall bladder and my belly isn't flat anymore. I miss my old body.

If I can bravely go out in public in a two piece, OP can have sex in the dark. Most guys are nice and not nearly as nasty as JetJockey's experience. Or at least the guys I dated were. Just, don't date @ssholes.
Well, when you've got enough unattractive physical properties you don't exactly get to date the cream of the crop

Honestly, I'm stoked when they turn out not to have a criminal record and they have a job. I have no idea what I'm doing with the guy I'm dating currently...he's wayyyyy out of my league. I'm enjoying it nonetheless.
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