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I wish I had been able to distinguish better between lust and love. I would have made much better choices for a husband (both times LOL).
I wish I had known that love in marriage is a commitment and not so much a 'feeling' -- feelings come and go -- but a commitment is forever.
I wish I had known that separate bedrooms were an option! I would have slept A LOT better! (And sex probably would have been more frequent! LLLLLLLLLLOOOOOOOOOLLLLLLLLLLL)
OHhhhhh, that's a good one.
Too many can't tell the difference and get into bad situations when they jump into marriage too quickly
Meeeeyeah...nothing about the way my wife lives annoys me. Oh, yeah...she leaves crumbs up the counter and leaves it sometimes. And I HATE HATE HATE paper towel usage.
My wife says sometimes I leave my socks in my pants. And I sometimes leave cabinets open.
...What are some of the things that you wish you knew or you had to work through with your SO?
The things you can work through are easy. The things you can't work through become pivotal points. There were two: 1) my ex could not apologize. 2) He hated conflict so he would not say "No" in order to keep the peace, but the uncommitted, insincere "yes" created bigger problems.
In both cases, I think this is a self-worth issue. We all make mistakes and hurt our partner at times. A sincere apology can go a long way.
Sometimes he kicks in his sleep. Really hard. I get big bruises from it. I've gotten into the habit of sleeping in a little ball in the corner of the bed to avoid getting kicked.
It seems like a lot of people here never even had "sleepovers" with their SO's before officially moving in together?
My boyfriend will stay for me for weeks at a time sometimes (we live states apart) and after about 5 days the natural tendencies came out. That was a few years ago, but it just seems like a lot of people here ares stating things they could have observed after a few days.
My girlfriend likes to 'mother' me a little bit. She always tries to make sure that I eat a complete healthy breakfast, and if I try to leave the house with a slightly wrinkled shirt she whips out an iron or at least the bottle of wrinkle release. I am not a slob at all, but she will go into cleaning/organizing mode if I go to the bathroom or step outside to play with the dogs.
She does leave me plenty of personal space though, and although I know it worries her a bit she doesn't try to discourage me from riding motorcycles, smoking an occasional pipe, or participating in shooting sports.
I wish I had known the depth of some of my insecurities and what the triggers were/are. They seem to pop up at the most inconvenient times! That said, I am glad my wife is understanding enough even if she gets annoyed.
It seems like a lot of people here never even had "sleepovers" with their SO's before officially moving in together?
My boyfriend will stay for me for weeks at a time sometimes (we live states apart) and after about 5 days the natural tendencies came out. That was a few years ago, but it just seems like a lot of people here ares stating things they could have observed after a few days.
Not trying to be nasty, just genuinely curious.
We did sleepover. He doesn't kick that often and I think he was more aware of my presence when we were dating. It doesn't happen often, it's just that when it does, it really hurts.
One of the reason my relationships went downhill was because I had no idea who I was, where I came from, and where I wanted to go in life. My growing up years laid the foundation for my issues in life; yet I was blind to that fact and anytime I made bad choices I blamed it on anyone or anything other than focusing on myself.
Once I got a clue that "I" needed to look within myself and learn all about me was I then ready to work with a counselor to get the answers.
It is true that the partners I paired up with were not the best for me; however, it was not their fault that I chose them, it was me making the wrong choices.
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I would have slept A LOT better! 
(And sex probably would have been more frequent! LLLLLLLLLLOOOOOOOOOLLLLLLLLLLL)
