Why do Some girls make BF's wait for sex, but don't make non-BF's wait? (movies, boyfriends)

[capitol]

Piggybacking on the last thread, what is the logic in waiting for months to have sex with a guy you deem BF material, but giving it up early for the guys you deem non-BF material? If the guy is some douche which is why you deem him not BF material, why give it up on the first night to him? Shouldn't it be the opposite way, you never give it up at all to the douche who would never commit to you?

[PI2070]

Charm my friend.

Some guys have it while others don't.

I'm not one of the lucky ones.

I speak about my life, job, hobbies and interests.

It's never "swoon" material.

[zentropa]

Do you really see sex as something a woman "gives up"? You have some issues, friend.

[capitol]

Originally Posted by zentropa

Do you really see sex as something a woman "gives up"? You have some issues, friend.

I don't, but that's the way these women view it. I think of sex as a shared experience, not a transaction.

[PI2070]

Originally Posted by zentropa

Do you really see sex as something a woman "gives up"? You have some issues, friend.

Speaking about 'relationships' even.

I look at it this way, you can't be a 'mans man' and a 'ladies man' both.

You're one or the other.

For every disgusted woman out there...there are guys thinking 'he's' the greatest ever.

Most these guys think 'Don Juan' is a toolbag too.

"Toolbag".......use that thesaurus brain of yours and one of your fancy million dollar words that make women swoon to impress them.

Instead of that 'wine'....we want a rootbeer float......Welcome to America you dork.

[zentropa]

Originally Posted by capitol

I don't, but that's the way these women view it. I think of sex as a shared experience, not a transaction.

"These women?" What women are you talking about? The ones on TV? The ones other guys talk about? The ones you project your insecurities on? Who?

[Kyle43]

And this is why you see more guys acting like douche's and jerks now.

They see douchy guys and jerks getting sex on demand without any commitments, while boyfriends have to do the whole dinner, movies, be polite, buy her gifts script and not getting sex until the 10th date.

Which do you think guys are going to emulate?

[Mikala43]

I can only speak for myself.

If I found a guy totally hot, and wasn't looking for a relationship, I MIGHT have a fling with him.

If I found a guy hot, thought he had a great personality, we had similar views, etc. I might wait.

If you have sex too soon it can make the rest of the relationship awkward, because you have shared physical intimacy before all the other types of intimacy. If I really like a guy, I want to take the time to get to get to know him, and give the relationship the best chance possible.

The other guy I don't really care about, I don't need/want to know his view on finances, how to raise kids, religion.

That's pretty much my theory, I've don't really get attracted unless I like the guys personality. Doesn't matter how hot they are.

[Rhenzanite]

The same reason some guys will take a woman out and treat her decently over just manipulating her into have sex with her early on and then leaving.

Some guys are sex material, some guys are relationship material. Like Mikala said, if you don't care about the guy at all, why would you wait and get to know him before sex?

[TheHurricaneKid]

It's about perception, as well wants and needs. Some do not want commitment at certain point in their lives, and when they do, they have to put up an image of being a good girl so that they can get a good man.