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Of course I agree that someone can be a jerk or misrepresent themselves online or offline but my topic was more about negative aspects of online dating in general. I understand most of what everyone is saying but I find it hard to believe the dynamics of meeting people online and offline are exactly the same, especially if you are online for a long time? I'm not an experienced online dater but have many friends that are and hear stories all time (some good and some bad like I said). Doesn't the constant matching (like 10 a day) and meeting of new people create some negative aspects in terms of commitment, expectations, and the selection process? Or from what am I hearing, does online dating a superior way to find a better match than the old fashioned way of meeting in real life?
Of course I agree that someone can be a jerk or misrepresent themselves online or offline but my topic was more about negative aspects of online dating in general. I understand most of what everyone is saying but I find it hard to believe the dynamics of meeting people online and offline are exactly the same, especially if you are online for a long time? I'm not an experienced online dater but have many friends that are and hear stories all time (some good and some bad like I said). Doesn't the constant matching (like 10 a day) and meeting of new people create some negative aspects in terms of commitment, expectations, and the selection process? Or from what am I hearing, does online dating a superior way to find a better match than the old fashioned way of meeting in real life?
Nothing beats the old fashioned way of meeting in real life. Ever.
With online dating, you also run the risk of being catfished.
Although I am happily settled with my hubby (who I met offline), I can think of around 5 girlfriends off the top of my head who have met their current boyfriends/fiances online. It's here to stay and although I never loved the idea, it can and does work for many people. I can't help but think of a couple of friends, however, who have been in the online dating game for a long time with no success. They are good looking, well educated, and fun but constantly complain that men they meet either misrepresent themselves (weight, height, profession) or just won't settle/commit since they are content to date around because they have so many options. I have a male co-worker who is on an online dating site and speaks about women he meets like expendable cattle, to him they are a dime a dozen and he gets excited about a new girl every week. I'm thinking that having too many options forces one to not commit until they feel that 'instant' click which may or may not be the best way to find a mate. In other words, unlike the good old days, online dating seems to create people just don't have the attention span/patience to spend time to really get to know someone. Based on countless stories I've heard, this seems like a big negative aspect to online dating to me. What do you think?
Sounds like the Seinfeld syndrome. Meet someone, doesn't meet lofty expectations. "Oh, there's more people. Moving on."
Then again, there are plenty of people who misrepresent themselves, crazy people and so forth. That's the chance you take online.
My girlfriend found me on OKCupid over a year ago. It's been an amazing relationship. We're like two peas in a pod.
Although I am happily settled with my hubby (who I met offline), I can think of around 5 girlfriends off the top of my head who have met their current boyfriends/fiances online. It's here to stay and although I never loved the idea, it can and does work for many people. I can't help but think of a couple of friends, however, who have been in the online dating game for a long time with no success. They are good looking, well educated, and fun but constantly complain that men they meet either misrepresent themselves (weight, height, profession) or just won't settle/commit since they are content to date around because they have so many options. I have a male co-worker who is on an online dating site and speaks about women he meets like expendable cattle, to him they are a dime a dozen and he gets excited about a new girl every week. I'm thinking that having too many options forces one to not commit until they feel that 'instant' click which may or may not be the best way to find a mate. In other words, unlike the good old days, online dating seems to create people just don't have the attention span/patience to spend time to really get to know someone. Based on countless stories I've heard, this seems like a big negative aspect to online dating to me. What do you think?
I totally agree with your OP.
Plain and simple, it is making dating more difficult.
For many people, it is a necessary tool to meet people.
There are two factors, I think. Online dating is a tool. If you don't learn to use the tool well (especially to screen candidates), you'll probably hurt yourself. Second, many people who have no success with online dating also have no success dating in "real" life.
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