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The issue is not lack of funds, because there are many things to do that are low cost. But, I remember meeting a man, who said he liked to ride bikes...great. We met for a bike ride. My idea of a bike ride, is cruising, maybe a few miles, stopping for beer. His idea of a "bike ride" was going for a fast ride, long, hard, grueling, hours...Sure, we had the same "interest" but at completely different levels. He went on his merry way, to find a triathalon competetion level bike rider.
I don't think that different interests get in the way of a relationship...but, I sure learned a lot about guns, and gun shows when I was married, same as my ex, went to cat shows, and bead shows. We did things together...we went shooting, I learned how to shoot, he learned that I was not the world's craziest cat person, there are more out there, way crazier than me...We went skiing together, he stayed on the bunny hill, I snuck in a few runs on the top, we met for lunch. There are ways of making it work.
The issue is not lack of funds, because there are many things to do that are low cost. But, I remember meeting a man, who said he liked to ride bikes...great. We met for a bike ride. My idea of a bike ride, is cruising, maybe a few miles, stopping for beer. His idea of a "bike ride" was going for a fast ride, long, hard, grueling, hours...Sure, we had the same "interest" but at completely different levels. He went on his merry way, to find a triathalon competetion level bike rider.
I don't think that different interests get in the way of a relationship...but, I sure learned a lot about guns, and gun shows when I was married, same as my ex, went to cat shows, and bead shows. We did things together...we went shooting, I learned how to shoot, he learned that I was not the world's craziest cat person, there are more out there, way crazier than me...We went skiing together, he stayed on the bunny hill, I snuck in a few runs on the top, we met for lunch. There are ways of making it work.
Next time you go on a date with a guy like that, suggest a tandem bike, it's easier to keep up that way
Having common ground in preferred leisure activities, hobbies, is great. Having tastes overall that aren't wildly dissimilar can be an important indicator of compatibility.
Doesn't mean that we must like ALL THE SAME THINGS, by any means. But if we're just always going to be going our own way on leisure pursuits, what's the point? I want somebody I where we can have fun together, and find the same things interesting a good portion of the time. I could never be with somebody who is all about, say golf, and insistent that any and all free time be spend golfing. Reason being, I don't golf. I have no interest in golfing. It's not something I will ever be a part of, so why would I gladly watch my SO spend every free moment doing something that won't ever involve me. I'm fine with an S.O. who goes and golfs occasionally. But I'm probably not compatible with someone whose major focus points don't have any element of mutuality.
How to stay alive and WIN at all costs. To unleash a "inner strength" that you have perfected and can totally anialate, dominate and control any situtation with a hellish like fury.
I forget who said this, but it's not how much the lovers love one another, but how much they love what they love together.
The whole purpose of a relationship, in my opinion, is to share your life with someone. If you don't have any interests in common, then what are you sharing? Bed and bodies?
Don't get me wrong: I don't think it necessary to be copies of one another, and I do think it healthy that each partner have one or two interests that are his or her own. But having common interests enriches both the relationship and the couple's enjoyment of the interest itself. It's really about bonding and quality time.
How to stay alive and WIN at all costs. To unleash a "inner strength" that you have perfected and can totally anialate, dominate and control any situtation with a hellish like fury.
Never surrender..............
MMA fighter?
Militia?
"Survivor" contestant?
20 years ago, you would've been the kind of guy that did it for me. Getting old sucks....
I forget who said this, but it's not how much the lovers love one another, but how much they love what they love together.
The whole purpose of a relationship, in my opinion, is to share your life with someone. If you don't have any interests in common, then what are you sharing? Bed and bodies?
Don't get me wrong: I don't think it necessary to be copies of one another, and I do think it healthy that each partner have one or two interests that are his or her own. But having common interests enriches both the relationship and the couple's enjoyment of the interest itself. It's really about bonding and quality time.
I agree. The OP's question doesn't make sense to me. If you have nothing in common with someone, how are you going to build a relationship? Sex and attraction aren't enough for a stable long-term relationship. That doesn't mean you have to have EVERYTHING in common, but you do have to have some common ground.
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