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Old 06-10-2013, 10:58 AM
 
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Hello,

I am a 22 year old girl and even though people tell me I'm pretty, men look at me quite a bit and I get hit on, I never had a real bf and I am still a virgin. I've had occasions in the past but I just never did anything about it because I don't want my first time to be with someone that I either don't truly love or that I love but doesn't really love me... I don't want it to be a casual hook up either. I'm quite shy I must admit, it can take me a bit of time to feel really comfortable with a guy, and I'm also not a girly-girl who falls in love every 2 months and within a few days. Even when I'm attracted and troubled by a guy, I need to take the time to get to know him, to become friend with him, to discover the small details that distinguishes him from the others to develop solid romantic feelings and be able to start a relationship. I think time, a bit of longing, make the feelings way more intense, so why sleeping with a charming guy you've met very recently when you could wait a few weeks or more and make all the sensations way stronger ? I am not religious at all, just romantic, maybe a bit too much, but I just want my first time to be with someone special to whom I will also be special. Anyways, I'm now 22 and getting a bit tired of waiting for love... am I being too idealistic and romantic, should I just stop making a big deal about this and go for a guy I'm not necessarily that thrilled about ? I don't want to... but I'm also a bit worried about what would a guy I like and date think of me still being a virgin.
What would you guys think if you'd meet a girl from my age, kind of like her and start dating her, and discover she is still a virgin ? How would you react ? Would it be a turn-off, or would you be glad she wants to give it to you ? Thanks in advance !
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Old 06-10-2013, 11:05 AM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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Hello,

I am a 22 year old girl and even though people tell me I'm pretty, men look at me quite a bit and I get hit on, I never had a real bf and I am still a virgin. I've had occasions in the past but I just never did anything about it because I don't want my first time to be with someone that I either don't truly love or that I love but doesn't really love me... I don't want it to be a casual hook up either. I'm quite shy I must admit, it can take me a bit of time to feel really comfortable with a guy, and I'm also not a girly-girl who falls in love every 2 months and within a few days. Even when I'm attracted and troubled by a guy, I need to take the time to get to know him, to become friend with him, to discover the small details that distinguishes him from the others to develop solid romantic feelings and be able to start a relationship. I think time, a bit of longing, make the feelings way more intense, so why sleeping with a charming guy you've met very recently when you could wait a few weeks or more and make all the sensations way stronger ? I am not religious at all, just romantic, maybe a bit too much, but I just want my first time to be with someone special to whom I will also be special. Anyways, I'm now 22 and getting a bit tired of waiting for love... am I being too idealistic and romantic, should I just stop making a big deal about this and go for a guy I'm not necessarily that thrilled about ? I don't want to... but I'm also a bit worried about what would a guy I like and date think of me still being a virgin.
What would you guys think if you'd meet a girl from my age, kind of like her and start dating her, and discover she is still a virgin ? How would you react ? Would it be a turn-off, or would you be glad she wants to give it to you ? Thanks in advance !
Many guys would be thrilled.

Don't let other people's opinion bother you so much. I lost my virginity to a man whom I really loved at age of 22. My first time experience is absolutely wonderful.

Good luck to you.
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Old 06-10-2013, 11:10 AM
 
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I don't know. Depends on what she's like...

I would hope she she's an alright person despite that, not somebody that intends to use her v-status to control people.
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Old 06-10-2013, 11:12 AM
 
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Most men don't care if a 22 year old woman is a virgin. Now, if you are waiting for marriage, that's an entirely different story-most men probably wont date you.
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Old 06-10-2013, 11:15 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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you'd meet a girl from my age, kind of like her and start dating her, and discover she is still a virgin ? How would you react ? Would it be a turn-off, or would you be glad she wants to give it to you ? Thanks in advance !
not a turn off or deal breaker.
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Old 06-10-2013, 11:17 AM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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22 and still a virgin is very normal - don't buy into the Hollywood hype that you should have lost it by now

Many guys will find your virginity a positive thing, not a negative one.
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Old 06-10-2013, 11:18 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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Despite what the media would have you believe, plenty of people are virgins at 22. They might not be shouting it from the rooftops, but they're out there.
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Old 06-10-2013, 11:18 AM
 
Location: Davenport, Iowa
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I don't think it's that crazy. A lot of people haven't had real relationships by age 22. Plenty of people don't want to do random hookups or FWB, either. I'm a guy and I lost my virginity at 21 and I wouldn't have wanted to do it earlier. Despite all that's written on this forum, I don't think your first time should be with just anyone.
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Old 06-10-2013, 11:19 AM
 
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It's good. Nothing's wrong with it.
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Old 06-10-2013, 11:20 AM
 
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Not a bad thing but very strange coming from a girl.
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