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It's been years since my boyfriend died. And I prayed to God a few months ago can he send me the perfect guy for me. Well i met this guy at work. We are both in law enforcement. He is a supervisor and everybody respects him because he treats everybody with respect. We both really like eachother alot. We are on different breaks. Most of the time I will come in for him if he calls me which is alot to help him out on his shifts and he always makes his way to visit me. He told he really liked but he cannot date me because he has alot of lose. If he loses his job he loses the custody of his kids. He told me if I was out of my uniform he would ask me out in a heartbeat. Once we are together it;s like nothing else matters around us. He is so kind.
I live a simple life i pay my own bills and do whatever i want on my off days but I don't like to get out much. We both understand out job is very stressful sometimes. i already put in to other law enforcement agencies and they are very hard to get into.
Would I be completely stupid if i gave up my simple life for him?
Is he your supervisor? Unless there are policies specifically against dating amongst staff, I don't see why it should pose a problem. I've heard stories of those in law inforcement dating and even marrying each other. As long as you keep your professional life and personal life separate there shouldn't be a problem. Why is he even bringing up the idea and you two haven't even dated? He is jumping the gun, and what if this doesn't work out? You are left high and dry. Don't do it. The fact he is even asking you to leave your job is a red flag.
I think you should go for it, as long as he is willing to sign a legal contract that he will support you until you find another job, at or above your current pay, whether or not things work out between you two.
It's been years since my boyfriend died. And I prayed to God a few months ago can he send me the perfect guy for me. Well i met this guy at work. We are both in law enforcement. He is a supervisor and everybody respects him because he treats everybody with respect. We both really like eachother alot. We are on different breaks. Most of the time I will come in for him if he calls me which is alot to help him out on his shifts and he always makes his way to visit me. He told he really liked but he cannot date me because he has alot of lose. If he loses his job he loses the custody of his kids. He told me if I was out of my uniform he would ask me out in a heartbeat. Once we are together it;s like nothing else matters around us. He is so kind.
I live a simple life i pay my own bills and do whatever i want on my off days but I don't like to get out much. We both understand out job is very stressful sometimes. i already put in to other law enforcement agencies and they are very hard to get into.
Would I be completely stupid if i gave up my simple life for him?
Oh yea, quit your job for the possibility of getting a date lol.
It's been years since my boyfriend died. And I prayed to God a few months ago can he send me the perfect guy for me. Well i met this guy at work. We are both in law enforcement. He is a supervisor and everybody respects him because he treats everybody with respect. We both really like eachother alot. We are on different breaks. Most of the time I will come in for him if he calls me which is alot to help him out on his shifts and he always makes his way to visit me. He told he really liked but he cannot date me because he has alot of lose. If he loses his job he loses the custody of his kids. He told me if I was out of my uniform he would ask me out in a heartbeat. Once we are together it;s like nothing else matters around us. He is so kind.
I live a simple life i pay my own bills and do whatever i want on my off days but I don't like to get out much. We both understand out job is very stressful sometimes. i already put in to other law enforcement agencies and they are very hard to get into.
Would I be completely stupid if i gave up my simple life for him?
Yes. What are you nuts? Besides your financial goldmine of a job, you would toss all you worked for, your independence for a chance of something, but a promise of nothing?
I'd say the fact you haven't even been out on a date yet is kind of a red flag!
Look, if you really want to see how serious he is you have to sit down with him and have a real conversation.
Put your cards on the table and tell him you are ready to tender your resignation if he is serious about you.
The minute you do this, he'll either panic and back pedal - or he'll be very excited and want to know when you are giving your notice.
Prepare yourself honey - I think he's going to back pedal
Back pedal nothing, he's going to use her, then dump her for the next broad who comes into the command. A real man wouldn't ask you to give up "your career, your financial freedom, your life" for a careless whisper.
What's the quickest way to get rid of someone in a command?
Answer: Tell them to resign and you'll take them out for a "happy meal at McDonalds" and some dessert at their apartment.
Back pedal nothing, he's going to use her, then dump her for the next broad who comes into the command. A real man wouldn't ask you to give up "your career, your financial freedom, your life" for a careless whisper.
What's the quickest way to get rid of someone in a command?
Answer: Tell them to resign and you'll take them out for a "happy meal at McDonalds" and some dessert at their apartment.
OP is being very dramatic and I worry about whether or not you fully grieved the death of your previous, which I am very sorry about. It is very hard to lose someone we love.
However, I do worry you are so eager to fling yourself at this because you are praying for the perfect man.
I worry that you are praying for a man to begin with. This is a huge red flag to me that you need to concentrate more on personal growth and maybe you didn't grieve all the way. It is NOT bad to desire a relationship, but your wording makes it seem like you were quite desperate.
You should know not to dump your career for a man who you haven't been on one date with. I think if you are actually an adult (not 15) and not a troll, you know this to be the truth.
Is there anyway you can transfer to another department?
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