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sedie80: Well of course you hit the nail right on the head where your response to these people are concerned and your response is quite correct. Boors will be boors will be boors but you are absolutely doing the right thing in rising above it.
Some of the younger people here where I live who work as cashiers are surly beyond belief. I've lived here for over two decades, this is my home and I'm very much part of the community. If I give the greeting to the young supermarket cashier or whoever and she or he either ignores me or grunts something sotto voce unintelligible, I simply repeat the greeting. I would say that garners a 100 percent turnaround and they say, "Oh, I'm sorry, Good Morning!" and all goes well after that.
I understand that many of these youngsters have grown up in less than desirable family environments and in basically dysfunctional surroundings. But they can, and so many do, lift themselves above that, work hard and take night courses to get a GED and more.
On the other hand, some simply stand still with no motivation in sight. These children bear children from "baby daddy" before they're even adults. They're born of a family unit which comprises a mother and, very often, siblings who are all half brothers and sisters with different daddies. They learn by example. And thus the cycle continues.
sedie80, you hesitated in apology about almost digressing? I think I just topped you! So what was the original question?
Kidding, but funny how some of these posts progress. After everyone rants and raves, one voice of simple reason steps in, followed by others and, all of a sudden, the thread is gone, demoted to back pages.
But to cap, it has always boggled my mind that some American visitors to the Virgin Islands who have actually taken the time to do some basic research, pop up on different forums to say that they either feel uncomfortable/resent saying, "Good Morning, etc"
I guess a typical case of non-compliance with the old adage of, "When in Rome, do as the Romans?"
I would hope, OP, that all this exchange of thoughts might have given you cause to think? Cheers!
Not to be critical, but seems to be a pattern here where Goodtype poses these bizarre questions and then never returns to the thread. What's up with that?
Not to be critical, but seems to be a pattern here where Goodtype poses these bizarre questions and then never returns to the thread. What's up with that?
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My questions are not bizarre, they are thought provoking
One of the drs where I work asks me the same thing when he comes up to my desk to bring a chart and if I dont answer quickly with good or a sarcastic lovely, he says, ok great, thats it. I start telling him how I am actually doing, he asked, right?
When did "how are you" become the new word for Hello? Every where I go the first thing people say is HOW ARE YOU(??). I would usually say, "fine" or "good" and leave it at that but finally I got tired of it. So now I say, "do you really want to know"? Or, "not so good" just to see if I get a response. Usually I just get a stare or a dirty look. Then I say, "why did you ask me how I was if you really did not want to know?" I got another dirty look.
If people do not want to know how I am why do they ask?
Yep, I agree. I hear that same question all the time. I believe that many of the things people say are just "fads" talk. Guess the old, "Hi" is outdated to them.
My response to the insincere question is usually, "Fine, thanks" and most often I don't reciprocate with the "how are you"...unless it is someone I know well or a friend, then I'll just ask, "and you?" and let it go.
And yes, I don't think they really want to know how we are. It's just an opening to a conversation.
I find it very sad that people are so offended by a simple greeting. It's even sadder when someone is actually peeved when a person wishes them a pleasant day. Would you rather they say, "Go to Hell?"
Greetings and pleasantries are attempts to make personal interactions pleasant. With all the hostility in the world today, is that really such a bad thing?
It's good to see YOU!"
You know it always brings smiles and relaxes the person.
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