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Brain maturity is a different thing from emotional maturity.
I believe the study to some degree, allowing for some variation. I've run into an awful lot of guys who are still dressing like hipsters in their 40's, still skateboarding, still into Star Trek and other Sci Fi stuff. I don't know any women remotely interested in any of that. Half the time I don't even know what the guys are talking about, it's like they're speaking a foreign language and dressing in a foreign way.
Yes, growing up can take the gut out of a person and rob them of a youthful image of themselves. But it doesn't have to.
A new study says men don't "grow up" until age 43 - a full 11 years after women do. They believe women reach maturity much earlier than men, at age 32 to be exact.
Women were also twice as likely to feel like they were the "grown up" in their current relationship, and 30% of women said they had ended a relationship over their male partner's immaturity.
Almost 50% reported relationships in which they had to mother their male partner a bit too much
Had to my behind. Pushed to the wall, they WILL grow up. If they don't have to, why would they? If a woman chooses to "mother" a man, what does she expect she will get but a child?
I believe the study to some degree, allowing for some variation. I've run into an awful lot of guys who are still dressing like hipsters in their 40's, still skateboarding, still into Star Trek and other Sci Fi stuff.
If those guys take care of their responsibilities, whether with their wives, kids, rent, car payment, etc. how is this a sign of immaturity?
If those guys take care of their responsibilities, whether with their wives, kids, rent, car payment, etc. how is this a sign of immaturity?
I totally agree with this! I didn't read the study or any other link, but I hear this all the time. Growing up is really someone else's interpretation. Women say men who have action figures and play video games are not grown up, but you really don't hear that when women in their 40's and 50's are wearing the same clothes as their teen age daughters going out drinking on "Girls night" That's not considered immature. At the end of the day, my opionion of growing up is this post that I quoted. Responsibilities are taken care of, bills are paid and that person is making sure their kids are safe and healthy. All those other things are just simply things that a person may not like about an individual. If a guy is playing video games and not looking for a job that is immmature, but if a person is partying, playing video games AND the bills are paid, then what is the problem?
Growing up is really someone else's interpretation.
Exactly. I get tired when people think they have the answers and there way is the way. I'm 43 and I go out looking for trains. I play basketball and look for pick up games. I play video games (with my son and daughter) and my wife and I love to go out looking for waterfalls. We don't ask, "Is this what grown ups do?" Because basically what grown up do is to provide for their family, keep them safe and warm and fed and be there when needed. And we do that.
But we also love to crank the music up in the car and sing like we have good voices. Steering wheels get drummed on at traffic lights. Sometimes we break out into bad dance moves in the house. And we're still quoting movies from the 80s and 90s like when I left today, my wife said, "Have a nice day." in her best Forest Gump.
Immaturity is not always a bad thing. Actually some immaturity is important in a relationship because it ensures the partnership stays fun and keeps things fresh, and also helps in bonding well with children.
I suppose there is a difference between being immature and acting immature.
I don't know, it sounds like a lot of male bashing to me. It was funded by a cable channel and TV (especially comedies) love to make men into buffoonish boys.
So what if a man likes science fiction or video games or playing loud music in the car, etc, etc. A person doesn't need to be serious all the time--you have to live a little, have fun and enjoy the things you like. And none of that stuff hurts anyone.
Emotional maturity I can see being a problem... no one likes an adult who acts like a spoiled brat and "can't lose" a game or instead of hashing out a problem does the equivalent of "holding ones breath" or "taking toys and going home." that can put a strain on a relationship and can hurt someone. But a lot of stuff on that list was just plain old likes or personality--it had nothing to do with emotional maturity.
I don't know, it sounds like a lot of male bashing to me. It was funded by a cable channel and TV (especially comedies) love to make men into buffoonish boys.
So what if a man likes science fiction or video games or playing loud music in the car, etc, etc. A person doesn't need to be serious all the time--you have to live a little, have fun and enjoy the things you like. And none of that stuff hurts anyone.
Emotional maturity I can see being a problem... no one likes an adult who acts like a spoiled brat and "can't lose" a game or instead of hashing out a problem does the equivalent of "holding ones breath" or "taking toys and going home." that can put a strain on a relationship and can hurt someone. But a lot of stuff on that list was just plain old likes or personality--it had nothing to do with emotional maturity.
It is male bashing, but we are men, we can deal with it. Concept of immaturity, as described or seen by the masses, does not interest me whatsoever. I have a different idea of what immaturity is, for example a group of people with dozens of past sexual partners, giggling like 8 year olds, every time a word "sex" or "penix" is mentioned. I think its cultural and mind boggling to me, while not gender specific.
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