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That's the thing when people start talking about "foolproof" dating tricks or behaviors: they work on the people who they work on. For every woman who swoons for a jerk, there's at least one more who thinks, "this guy is a dick," and walks away.
Precisely. And the one who walks away is much more emotionally/psychologically healthy, which means she's going to be an easier and more enjoyable person to be in a relationship with.
No woman likes this just like no man likes a B. it's just that they were already attracted to you for other reasons and it didn't matter how you acted. They would prefer if you were nice though and being a jerk leads to the destruction of the relationship quicker.
I've found that some women go through a phase of liking "bad boys" (pricks) in their teens or twenties and grow out of it, while others stay in that phase for their whole lives. The latter often end up in abusive relationships, sadly. As I've gotten older I've found that I attract more of the right type of women (more emotionally healthy) by being nice rather than pretending to be a prick The ones who still like pricks in their 30's tend to be a mess, and I'd just as soon avoid them.
You make excellent points.
Reed's problem is that he is attracted to women with emotional problems and complicated lives, then tries to rescue them and change them.
Reed's problem is that he is attracted to women with emotional problems and complicated lives, then tries to rescue them and change them.
Yep. In other words, his attraction to them is very similar to their attractions to the pricks. Both are trying to rescue/change/"fix" other people, and will end up being disappointed.
Sorry, but both of these statements are simply untrue. To be clear, though, I'm talking about unconscious patterns of attraction here. They're not going to come out and tell you, "I really love dating pricks/b*tches!" but their patterns of attraction indicate otherwise.
Sorry, but both of these statements are simply untrue. To be clear, though, I'm talking about unconscious patterns of attraction here. They're not going to come out and tell you, "I really love dating pricks/b*tches!" but their patterns of attraction indicate otherwise.
Not sure how fake it was in all honesty. Not sure if I'm being more fake by being a nice guy either. This last woman I was with I gave her more then anyone else before & it's going to leave a bad mark & a bad taste towards other women, and I know not all women are like her.
So you think that both being a prick or being nice will lead to the same results: You will end up with no partner and you being a natural prick feel more comfortable being yourself.
Honestly I think we are not qualified to help you. I think you need the help of a professional. Your life can get very ugly if you are unable to have healthy social interactions. You said you ended up with no friends before which is natural because people don't like abuse. Unfortunately people like you need to fake social interactions for your own benefit. You need to find balance otherwise your antisocial behavior will escalate to violence and drug dependency.
They don't say that because they don't consciously like it or don't want to admit their pattern of attraction, no matter how evident it is to an outside observer.
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Originally Posted by srjth
Well have to just agree to disagree.
Nah, we'll have to agree that your understanding of human behavior is limited.
I think there is a type of woman who is attracted to a jerk, but not all women are. I've never dated one.
There are also plenty of women who date jerks in their teens and early 20s, but by their mid-late 20s are done with them and have finely-attuned jerkdar. Some immaturity in relationships when you're young is expected, but smart women who want good relationships are going to be turned off by that kind of behavior after a certain point (if they ever liked it to begin with).
They don't say that because they don't consciously like it or don't want to admit their pattern of attraction, no matter how evident it is to an outside observer.
Nah, we'll have to agree that your understanding of human behavior is limited.
I bet you've liked a B before and not because she was a B but because of other reasons.
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