A very common theme on the internet (dating, girlfriend, women)
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I hear the following all the time from guys on the internet.
"Why am I having so much trouble with women? I'm 26 yrs old, have a good job making $65k/yr, I'm decent looking, I have hobbies. I even tried making an online dating profile and I only got 2 messages in the first month I was paying for the site."
Why do you think this is? Is dating actually harder for men these days?
I hear the following all the time from guys on the internet.
"Why am I having so much trouble with women? I'm 26 yrs old, have a good job making $65k/yr, I'm decent looking, I have hobbies. I even tried making an online dating profile and I only got 2 messages in the first month I was paying for the site."
Why do you think this is? Is dating actually harder for men these days?
I think they're just the ones who have the problem and it seems bigger than it really is because they're the ones making the most noise.
I think dating is harder for both men and women, today. There are more feminine men and more masculine women in the dating market today, than ever before. Thats the root of the problem.
It's because people think that just doing things they are supposed to be doing in life should just guarantee them dates
Yep. They take a minimalist, entitled approach to it, and that isn't going to cut it. Millions of perfectly law-abiding, productive members of society to choose from. If you don't make yourself stand out in what you offer a potential partner, you're going to be lonely.
But hey, that would require some introspection, some courage and humility to see what we might be lacking or doing wrong, and some hard work at self-improvement.
I mean, do we really need to trot that Cracked link out again? The bottom line is that the world cares about what it gets from you. Offer something other than the bare minimum and your own expectations. Go for the 37 pieces of flair, not just the 15 required.
I hear the following all the time from guys on the internet.
"Why am I having so much trouble with women? I'm 26 yrs old, have a good job making $65k/yr, I'm decent looking, I have hobbies. I even tried making an online dating profile and I only got 2 messages in the first month I was paying for the site."
Why do you think this is? Is dating actually harder for men these days?
Read this thread, it may give you a better understanding.
I hear the following all the time from guys on the internet.
"Why am I having so much trouble with women? I'm 26 yrs old, have a good job making $65k/yr, I'm decent looking, I have hobbies. I even tried making an online dating profile and I only got 2 messages in the first month I was paying for the site."
Why do you think this is? Is dating actually harder for men these days?
The problem is that they're the kind of guys who think dating is an equation, where salary plus looks plus hobbies should equal girlfriend. Unfortunately for them and perhaps ironically, having the type of personality that views the world that way very often equals no girlfriend.
These are also the kind of guys who are likely to express their frustrations on the internets. In my experience they're not as common in the general population as they are on forums like this.
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Originally Posted by Raptor76
It's because people think that just doing things they are supposed to be doing in life should just guarantee them dates
Yep, that's another good way to put it.
What gets you dates is being the type of guy women enjoy going on dates with. That doesn't always have as much to do with looks and salaries as some guys think. It has more to do with things like listening, conversation skills, and how you make her feel. Lots of guys who make good money in fields like engineering and computer science have all the social skills and emotional intelligence of a doorknob, which means they often don't get dates.
Last edited by nearnorth; 06-12-2013 at 10:38 AM..
I hear the following all the time from guys on the internet.
"Why am I having so much trouble with women? I'm 26 yrs old, have a good job making $65k/yr, I'm decent looking, I have hobbies. I even tried making an online dating profile and I only got 2 messages in the first month I was paying for the site."
Why do you think this is? Is dating actually harder for men these days?
If someone like this really is having trouble meeting women on dating sites (a claim of which I am skeptical), it may be because the male/female ratio on many dating sites if badly skewed. Even some of the largest, most popular sites can have male/female ratios as high as 5 to 1.
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