Guys: What is the number one complaint you have about available single women: weight, looks, kids, finances, materialism (boyfriends, how to)
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Stop! Do you see what you're doing wrong? Read the first two sentences above. First, you talk about women rejecting you because of who you are. But how can you be so sure they're seeing the real you? Very few of us can be objective about ourselves, particularly when it comes to dating. We see ourselves one way, but the rest of the world may see us differently. I'm an introvert so I don't talk a lot. But others have told that gives the impression that I'm aloof and arrogant. For all you know, you may unintentionally be sending signals that turn people off. Second, you talk about not having to change yourself to appeal to someone else. Well who's asking you to? Certainly not me. Look at the questions I asked. Here they are again. Am I approaching these women wrong?Am I doing or saying something that's turning them off? Am I simply chasing after the wrong women? Now where do I suggest that you need to change who you are? Let's just look at the last question. Are you chasing after the wrong women? People have a tendency to make the same mistakes. Sometimes, they have to make the same mistake over and over before they see the pattern. For example, many people break up with one person but then get involved with someone who's the same as the last person. So if women keep rejecting you, ask yourself if you're just going after the wrong ones.
I honestly dunno...I've never really been able to find the kindhearted, sweet-natured types of women here that I was actually looking for, who were also both single and would be willing to give me a fair chance romantically with them...and that's why I gave up on dating locally
First, I think referring to a person as damaged goods is tacky. However, I would say that DC women are not damaged goods. Some of transplant women get corrupted by the DC culture and develop a offputting attitude. I just think you have to step to the women here differently than you would step to them in a city elsewhere say Louisville or Cincinnati.
This I know already, and Im not refering that they are damahed good, Im just asking. Sorry if you took any offense to my post. I know that Transplant women upon arriving and living in these professional cities like Boston, SF, NYC and DC can get jaded attitudes along with egoism, entitlements and heavy narcissism.
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I wouldn't go quite as far as calling them damaged goods...I think I agree with Dissenter's assessment, who put it very well...
Im not saying that they are and I obviously know that already. Im just asking you if they are and also why are you put off by local DC women over Careerist highly educated Transplant types.
This I know already, and Im not refering that they are damahed good, Im just asking. Sorry if you took any offense to my post. I know that Transplant women upon arriving and living in these professional cities like Boston, SF, NYC and DC can get jaded attitudes along with egoism, entitlements and heavy narcissism.
Im not saying that they are and I obviously know that already. Im just asking you if they are and also why are you put off by local DC women over Careerist highly educated Transplant types.
I haven't noticed any entitlements or narcissism from the women I've met in Boston...weird.
Of course, I didn't become jaded after I moved here...I was already jaded and cynical, I just moved closer to my people
I haven't noticed any entitlements or narcissism from the women I've met in Boston...weird.
Of course, I didn't become jaded after I moved here...I was already jaded and cynical, I just moved closer to my people
Ive been to Boston on a few occasions and came across many out of town women who are what I described, however I was still capable of carrying out a decent conversation and see where it goes. But I do have to say Boston has some nice local women.
Also I have visited philly and out of town women were the same as I described. , local women were different, a bit humble and they like their guys in a certain way and or bravado.
NYC my hometown local women are humble and down to earth, but also stuck up and shallow, nothing I can do about that, however going to plenty of bars, lounges, meetups, mixers, parties, restaurants, gyms, concerts, sporting events or just casually walking on the streets of Manhattan from time to time I bump into out of town women who are in NYC trying to advance their careers or formulate one. Nothing wrong with that and I view that as a positive. Many of these types of women come from a small town or suburb, generally from a divorced parent household or a married blended household. We go through the usual questions aka investigation ask me what I do, where did obtain my BA, what part of city do I reside and why. I already had one woman ask me what my credit score is. Then its off to, wow you have nice eyes, or wow your tall. Local woman never ask me those questions because they dont care about what college you went to, or what's your credit score, or if you have a job, just as long as your working. Local women here care about how good looking a man is, everything comes later. I always found out of town women much more easier to talk to than local woman, but over time I found that out of town women have high egos, over time built up entitlements, and a certain degree of narcissism which is very common in this generation of young people, but then again I could be wrong because not all women are like this, but some are or maybe many. Overall Im put off by many women native to the North East cities I will visit DC before the year is out and will obtain my assessment of meeting women there, but also for career purposes.
Sorry for typos, typing from a smartphone.
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Im not saying that they are and I obviously know that already. Im just asking you if they are and also why are you put off by local DC women over Careerist highly educated Transplant types.
Sorry, I should have been more specific -- by "local D.C. women", I had meant the total universal majority of women who live in the D.C. area geographically. I was not attempting to draw a distinction between D.C. women who were already living here since birth (native D.C. women?), vs. transplanted D.C. women who moved here from previously living in other geographical regions. I apologize if I caused any confusion earlier by the wording I had used on my end.
I hate to break it to you but what a lot of it boils down to is that women dont genuinely like men, the way men genuinely like women. What I mean by that is that even as men have preferences, they (all of them) will settle for a less than ideal woman, however a woman will die alone before she detaches her self from her "deal breakers" (Ive talked to women like this)...[snip] And those who dont pick losers, are full of just the right amount of selfish pride and lack feeling any obligation to the larger cause of society, to tell themselves they've still won themselves the prize of solitude by not settling for less than their own personal ideal; during their daily affirmations of course.
And the synopsis on your walls of text is: Apparently, no women is good enough, therefore all men must settle. And any women fortunate enough not to settle, isn't worthwhile.
You don't seem like a man who "genuinely like[s] women."
Sorry, I should have been more specific -- by "local D.C. women", I had meant the total universal majority of women who live in the D.C. area geographically. I was not attempting to draw a distinction between D.C. women who were already living here since birth (native D.C. women?), vs. transplanted D.C. women who moved here from previously living in other geographical regions. I apologize if I caused any confusion earlier by the wording I had used on my end.
The thing is this that I have noticed difference between local and out of town women and their dating prospects. Where I'm from in NYC its pretty stark, like from Apples to Oranges. I was assuming if DC might be similar.
And the synopsis on your walls of text is: Apparently, no women is good enough, therefore all men must settle. And any women fortunate enough not to settle, isn't worthwhile.
You don't seem like a man who "genuinely like[s] women."
Nope. Most single women are fat, ugly and have a bunch of kids. The few that don't meet that description...well, they'll hook up with them and then call them wh*res and skanks the next day and then wonder why there aren't any 'good girls' without realizing they too are skanks and wh*res.
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Originally Posted by Bronxguyanese
The thing is this that I have noticed difference between local and out of town women and their dating prospects. Where I'm from in NYC its pretty stark, like from Apples to Oranges. I was assuming if DC might be similar.
Weird...because I know several men who live in NYC and they have zero issues dating. In fact, one of them recently referred to it as a 'smorgasbord' of women and that he's never going to settle down.
Nope. Most single women are fat, ugly and have a bunch of kids. The few that don't meet that description...well, they'll hook up with them and then call them wh*res and skanks the next day and then wonder why there aren't any 'good girls' without realizing they too are skanks and wh*res.
Weird...because I know several men who live in NYC and they have zero issues dating. In fact, one of them recently referred to it as a 'smorgasbord' of women and that he's never going to settle down.
Lol i dont have issues with dating, issues with women here and there currently seeing two different women, originally it was four a couple of months ago and rejected two for having multiple kids. And another for having 60k of debt. Not my cup of tea. In NYC if your good looking, very out going fegardless how much you make and last have money a man will have no problems getting laid and dating multiple women.
Lol i dont have issues with dating, issues with women here and there currently seeing two different women, originally it was four a couple of months ago and rejected two for having multiple kids. And another for having 60k of debt. Not my cup of tea. In NYC if your good looking, very out going fegardless how much you make and last have money a man will have no problems getting laid and dating multiple women.
So then why do you consistently post that dating in NYC is pointless and that all the women are worthless?
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