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Old 06-13-2013, 10:23 AM
 
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I'm talking to a beautiful 44 year old woman on OKCupid. We've spoken on the phone several times. I am 24.

We are going out to dinner tonight, and she gave me her address to pick her up.

She said, however, she just wants to be friends, nothing more.

Is this just her way of not appearing promiscuous? I can't imagine why a 44 year old would go out to dinner with a 24 year old other than for sex. She did suggest I give her a back rub after dinner.

Thoughts? How should I play this?
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Old 06-13-2013, 10:25 AM
 
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Can't speak to her motivation, but what's yours?
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Old 06-13-2013, 10:25 AM
 
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Can't speak to her motivation, but what's yours?
Take her out for a nice dinner, and give her the best sex she's had in a while.
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Old 06-13-2013, 10:27 AM
 
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While you are chatting over dinner ask her what her if her motivation is really sex being hidden behind the "let's be friends but you can give me a back rub after dinner" statement.

SHE is the ONLY ONE who actually KNOWS if she has an actual motive besides friendship. No one else can even come remotely close to guessing what her thoughts are and what her motivation might really be.
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Old 06-13-2013, 10:28 AM
 
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SHE is the ONLY ONE who actually KNOWS if she has an actual motive besides friendship. No one else can even come remotely close to guessing what her thoughts are and what her motivation might really be.
you could say that about any thread on here, Im just trying to get some opinions.
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Old 06-13-2013, 10:29 AM
 
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Take her out for a nice dinner, and give her the best sex she's had in a while.
Now you are assuming she has not had sex in a while unless of course she has told you this fact and you are assuming it will be the best sex she has ever had....
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Old 06-13-2013, 10:29 AM
 
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Now you are assuming she has not had sex in a while unless of course she has told you this fact and you are assuming it will be the best sex she has ever had....
Im assuming. I'm sure she could give ME the best sex I have had in a while, hows that?
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Old 06-13-2013, 10:30 AM
 
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Take her out for a nice dinner, and give her the best sex she's had in a while.
I like your attitude, but if shes 20 years older than you, she may be able to teach you a thing or two. Im sure she doesnt mean friends, but rather freinds with benefits. I have had girls tell me on first dates how they never sleep with their guys early on in the relationship blah blah blah, and then beg to come up to my place at the end of first date.
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Old 06-13-2013, 10:32 AM
 
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I like your attitude, but if shes 20 years older than you, she may be able to teach you a thing or two. Im sure she doesnt mean friends, but rather freinds with benefits. I have had girls tell me on first dates how they never sleep with their guys early on in the relationship blah blah blah, and then beg to come up to my place at the end of first date.
Right.

Should I ask her what she means, or play it cool and go back to her place after dropping her off?
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Old 06-13-2013, 10:35 AM
 
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Don't over-think it. Just go have dinner, take her home, offer to make good an the back rub (sometime during the conversation, maybe repeatedly), and let happen what happens. The conversation over dinner and on the drive should give you an idea where things will be going.
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