how would you respond to this?... (wife, boyfriends, lesbians, married)
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I found a photo of my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years at a bar with his cousin and older male friend from his work, and two girls. My boyfriends arm is around the woman and he is pulling her in close. His hand is tightened around her hip. They both look happy. And they both look like they were making out. You know that "after" tousled look...he states he went home and nothing arose from this.
He claims the two girls in the photos are lesbians. His friend from work who is an older man, is married with a child; he is stating the same thing. And that his wife knew about him being there.
The story is that the older man invited my bf and his cousin to a bar where these two women were. He states he knows the women and are friends with them. My boyfriend and I had a huge altercation and wants me back. During our altercation he was so mad that he said he wanted to f@#% her up until he found out she was a lesbian. He states it was a friendly hug. He also told me that he just met her that night and the picture was nothing. But his friend emailed it to him. Why would he email the photo to him if it was nothing?
Also - why would he hug someone he just met in a bar and take a photo with this person, who they are claiming is 100% lesbian.
I don't believe this story for a second. I broke it off at this point and went as far as blocking him.
I'd like to know what you think about this and how you would respond? What would you do? What would you say? What do you think about their story?
He tells me I have to trust him - but here is where this situation hits me hard. He was out in a bar with a woman on my mother's 1 year anniversary since she died, while I was home dealing with that.. He was texting me - you know the guilty conscience checking up on your partner to make sure they won't accidently show up sort of texting. He said he was out with the guys and never mentioned the women at all.
Sometimes, the truth sounds horrible. There is a pretty good chance that everything he said is true and you are the one reading more into the situation. Its pretty obvious that you dont trust him so may be its best to not be together.
Id hate to be with someone that'll question my every move...even when i'm out and thinking about them. A man that is going to cheat will do so regardless of how close you mark him....remember that.
Sometimes, the truth sounds horrible. There is a pretty good chance that everything he said is true and you are the one reading more into the situation. Its pretty obvious that you dont trust him so may be its best to not be together.
Id hate to be with someone that'll question my every move...even when i'm out and thinking about them. A man that is going to cheat will do so regardless of how close you mark him....remember that.
I'm fully aware that a man will do what he pleases and yes you are right I maybe reading into it. But I am asking for an objective perspective based on what stands out to me.
I've been cheated on before. This feels like that.
Exactly how did you find this photo? Snooping in his email or on his phone? Did you have reason to suspect something was up prior to finding this photo?
--might I also add that he offered to provide her contact information and asked me to call her as back-up to his story. As a woman, I know better. We don't engage in this.
However, I don't know if I called him out on this but when I obliged to taking her information with no intention of using it, he said ..uh..I don't have it but I can get it for you.
When you factor in him being there AT ALL, and then his comment about wanting her - that is indicative that I am NOT reading into this situation. I've pretty much summed it up as accurately as it appears.
I'm fully aware that a man will do what he pleases and yes you are right I maybe reading into it. But I am asking for an objective perspective based on what stands out to me.
I've been cheated on before. This feels like that.
Thats what i was alluding to. You are essentially interpreting his actions through the prism of a previous experience and that isnt fair. I think you should have expressed your disappointment in him choosing to spend time at a bar when you are grieving...perfectly understandable...
but a picture with some random woman? Has he done anything in the past to warrant this sort of reaction?
Exactly how did you find this photo? Snooping in his email or on his phone? Did you have reason to suspect something was up prior to finding this photo?
Social media. On numerous occasions my bf has been tagged in photos by other people. Then he hides them.
--might I also add that he offered to provide her contact information and asked me to call her as back-up to his story. As a woman, I know better. We don't engage in this.
However, I don't know if I called him out on this but when I obliged to taking her information with no intention of using it, he said ..uh..I don't have it but I can get it for you.
When you factor in him being there AT ALL, and then his comment about wanting her - that is indicative that I am NOT reading into this situation. I've pretty much summed it up as accurately as it appears.
If you are truly convinced that he cheated then you made the right call. You know him better than us...but based on the info presented up to this point, im not convinced he did anything....
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